Yikes am I mad/ a bully/ an insecure twat/ mad?!!

[Hyperhelpmum]

Background: 6 month old dc3, had PN anxiety/ depression with others, think I'm definitely a bit 'irrational/ nuts' at moment BUT

One of the mums I know is making me feel angry/ paranoid/ jealous

She was never friends with my group and ha recently got more friendly due to shared interests/ experiences eg gym/ kids in same school now.

She has always been competitive with me over kids but I only saw her with our children and v rarely socially. Now she is friends with my friends I see her socially all the time. She seems to be at every single thing I go to and it's driving me nuts.

She name drops that she sees our friends if I don't, goes on and on and on if one of them invites her to dinner. Last two times I've seem her she's been a bit tipsy and had a go at me about things.

I REALLY resent her and don't want her around. I spend my time checking to see if she's seen friends, hoping she hasn't and wishing she would F off!!!! She is quite like this with some of my friends too ie if sees me drops into their conversation how she has looked after baby for me or they olanned a baby shower for me and they told me she took over.

AIBU? Do I have post natal madness. Ahhhh why do I care? I realise I sound like a 12 yr old! Feel a bit left out as been b feeding/ have young baby and live in different village/ town so can't see them as much as I did.

Tell me to grow up please!

No you are not being unreasonable. There are people in life that enjoy moving in on a group, taking over, completely changing the dynamics. She sounds very needy too. Don't go out of your way to find out if she saw friend X -she will tell you soon enough. As long as the others know what she is up to, otherwise she will be well in there breaking you all up. God I hate those people.

No, you're not mad or an insecure twat or anything else. She's an arsehole.

Thank you. I feel if I tell people they will think I'm a mad old cow. She seems to have 'dropped' her old friends and now bad mouths them all the time and is just WAY too needy and desperate to be part of my group of friends (who admittedly are now her friends too) Recentky it was one of my good friends birthdays and she sent a text to all of us saying shall we group together to buy her X. I was like ermmmmmm, she's been my friend for years. I think I can get her a pressie myself! Another friend mentioned if to me saying it was odd so I know I wasn't being sensitive or odd then. Grrrrrr it annoys me ! Why can't I let it go?!