Would you get this mad with a male friend?

[HeartHotWaterBottle]

I guess I could almost say I've known him since birth, we were born on the same ward at same time in a small town hospital.

We were always very close when we got older (early teens), he liked me when we were 18 but it was in quite an innocent way and it didn't interfere with our friendship. I moved away to a city at 22 and he moved up soon after. At 27, one night when we went dancing he got irate in a club when someone tried to chat me up and got extremely heavy with me. I broke contact for a few years. He wrote one email during that time saying he'd always been in love with me.

We reconciled after a few years and recently I have been going through a terrible time and was going to stay in his spare room for a few months until I had things more sorted. He wanted me to go over for a meal, then afterwards when I left he pushed me against a wall and had a hard-on. I had to break away. It really freaked me out as he used to be like a brother to me, he was so sweet when he was younger. It feels like after a year of shagging around Asia he is now pushy and horrible.

I dropped contact after that apart from sending him a really shitty email saying that we should not be in contact again, end of. I can't believe I am saying this but I don't want him in my life if he feels like he can exploit me sexually when I'm vulnerable.

But do you think I was too harsh on him and trampling on his feelings? I still feel a bit bad for sending a 'no contact, ever' email.

[CrispyFern]

You can't be friends with someone if they like you in a romantic way.
It just doesn't work.

[HeartHotWaterBottle]

Hello Bullets :)

After it happened he kept asking me to go round his house. I finally said yes and when the day came literally couldn't face it as he texted me 'does the lady want smoked salmon and pimms?' and I felt sick as I suddenly realised he would make a pass again, so I said I was unwell and wasn't going.

Then two weeks ago I sent him a stroppy email which he hasn't responded to, so it's done and dusted.