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Is this person out of my league?

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 00:21

I have name changed for this because I feel stupid asking the question, but it's needling me a bit so need to get it out there.

I am 40, happy with my looks and life, run a small fledgling business but it is fairly low income at present. Am uni educated and fairly confident generally.

But, I am attracted to / interested in someone, he is several yrs older than me, single, and a vet. Is this person likely to be out of my league in a professional sense? We seem to have a similar background, but it popped into my head, maybe I have some low self esteem here!

When I am interested in someone, I do tend to feel 'not good enough', but it is something I am working on.
Opinions on this?

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 12:08

Dinnaeknowshitfromclay Oh I know that, I am not 'impressed' by his profession, and have met a fair few twatty vets in my time!

lainiekazan Oddly one area I don't feel inadequate is in looks. In that sense I would probably be in a higher 'league' than him a fair bit - however bloody terrible that sounds, and i am only stating it as a shallow point! Agh that sounds dreadful!
Doesn't mean I don't think he's lovely, though. His looks do it for me completely. He is very nerdy looking, bald and underweight and i am super attracted to him regardless.. Christ I need to stop posting, haha!

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lainiekazan · 09/05/2014 12:12

Go for it, OP!

I am a little bit in love with all the vets at the local surgery. They are so kind . If only GPs were as nice to their patients!

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 12:24

I'm not sure I've met a 'kind' vet, most of them have seemed a bit grabby and dismissive. This one's ok ( of course!), has a decent reputation for how he treats the pets, which is all that matters.

Maybe I should dress up as a cat and crawl in to have my ears syringed or something. He may reject me but would hardly be able to forget me!

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 12:25

Shit , if people have vet fetishes then I will be up against some pretty stiff competition! I bet he's batting them away like flies. O god.

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Kitsmummy · 09/05/2014 12:31

can you facebook friend request him? I know you barely know him and i wouldn't friend request someone usually like this, but this is exceptional circumstances. If he rejects your request then you'll have your answer. If he accepts then you can do a bit of light flirting and see where it gets you!

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 12:39

Don't think he does FB.

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Ivehearditallnow · 09/05/2014 12:55

"Oddly one area I don't feel inadequate is in looks. In that sense I would probably be in a higher 'league' than him a fair bit - however bloody terrible that sounds, and i am only stating it as a shallow point! Agh that sounds dreadful!"

Yep, pretty dreadful tbh. Stop ranking people - yourself included - it's really unpleasant Hmm

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 09/05/2014 12:56

DSis any help at matchmaking or would you rather not involve her?

squizita · 09/05/2014 13:01

Pffft. I get this because DH comes across as a posh boy with a fancy job.

Much as he is D to me, he is a Homer Simpson-esque buffoon in many regards, just as with anyone.

People see the suit not the man.

He gets Angry when people do this as he considers me to have been more successful in my (less glam) job than he in his, and takes it as an insult to me.

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 13:07

I'm not ranking him, i said it was a dreadful thought - and lighthearted! It was just a response to a poster who had mentioned something similar in a date she's had. I guess i was relating it to a shallow point of view that isn't necessarily my own. But it exists out there, sadly.

When i see him i just want to get close to him, hug him or something, I couldn't care if he was a doctor or a chimney sweep to be honest.

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lainiekazan · 09/05/2014 14:06

Do you have a pet, OP? A hamster would do! Then you could go into the surgery and do a "Gosh, it's you, Cedric! I didn't know you were in this practice!" and see if he looks pleased to see you. Of course, a dog requiring toenail clipping, vaccinations, castrating (!) would offer more opportunities...

noddingoff · 09/05/2014 19:33

Frilly, I think you should know that it's your fault my keyboard has snot on it, from the laughing as I fantasised about a parallel universe where we vets float around in some fabulous league way above every one else's leagues. Ask him out! Go for it!! My best friend from vet college is in a LTR with a lovely guy who was (and is) a client at her practice. He turned up at the surgery one day to ask her out and they're pretty much living happily ever after (he's as poor as a church mouse btw). My non-vet DP isn't exactly rolling in cash either. Leagues, pah!

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frillyskirt · 09/05/2014 21:26

lainiekazan Cedric! Good name for a hamster though! I do have a kitty but his own vet would be miffed if we switch over.

noddingoff GrinGrin Thanks for soothing my agony... just a bit.

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