He's finally admitted it

[onionlove]

Ive posted before about suspecting my DH has been visiting a prostitute he finally had to admit it tonight after i told him he had to show me bank statements, he begged to stay together, easy for him to say. We have 2 small DCs i just keep thinking of them, feel sick, this is gutting, what the hell do i do now. Our relationship wasn't great, I'm not perfect but i still cant believe it, what do i do?

Sending you best wishes for a better future Onion.No woman/mother should be treated so badly.Much good advice from Cog as always. Mx.

Fontella I am guessing they want all the comforts of home as well - someone to mummy them and look after them - do their washing, cook their dinner, etc.
Plus they want to look like a good bloke - not a sad old pervert who can only get it if he's paying

In the long run, having a Mum who is together and being in a happy home, will mean your son will cope. My ex left us for another woman shortly before my dc3 was born, 4 months before my D's started school.

The routine of school was great for all of us and 5 years later we are a happy family unit. The DC see their dad sporadically (his choice not mine), and I make sure my brothers and dad spend time with ds, so he has good male role models.

You and your DC are worth more than this.

Hi Fontella,
Million dollar question I don't get it either, he supposedly had a terrible time with my step-daughters mother and embraced a second chance at family life but then just repeated old behaviours I think. Its cake and eat it isn't it, can do what I like but have someone to look after me like when I lived at home with mummy, do my washing, ironing, clean the house oh and all the diy etc as well and sort out and look after the children's needs but I can parade around them when I want to look like a great father (sorry I'm bitter I know not all men are like this I have two amazing brothers). His relationship with his mother is dysfunctional, as with his ex, going that way with my step-daughter. I'm going to teach my son how to relate to and treat women and be independant so he can look after himself and lead a batcheleor life if he so wishes. He is seeing a counsellor and all the issues lead back to childhood.
I don't think I would trust myself to pick a decent bloke to have a relationship with again, I just can't seem to see warning signs which now stare me in the face.

You are sounding nicely angry, onion

I'm so sorry this has happened to you, but at least now you know, you can rip of that sticking plaster, and get on with building a great life with your son. Being treated with respect and having peace of mind is worth any amount of split up anguish and logistics.

You'll learn from this as you've learned from things before.