I just wanted some outside perspective on this situation.
H & I have recently agreed to save up for a new car. We're both aware that the more we save, the smaller the loan we would need, therefore lower repayment etc.
Tonight, he announces that he's just bought some stuff for DS's room, at a cost of £200 (without chatting with me about it first).
I replied that decisions like that need to be made jointly, we are meant to be a team after all. Also, aren't we working towards saving for a car? The stuff for DS's bedroom can wait until after we have dealt with that.
He then went into justifying mode, saying that DS's room 'needs' doing (hardly, it's more of a want than a need) and that he wants to crack on & get it done etc.
He always does this.
He decides (on his own) that something needs doing, then steams ahead without considering how it might impact on other things. When I pull him up on it, I'm the unreasonable one for not seeing why he simply 'must' spend money on various unnecessary crap.
The car we're looking to replace is a medium sized family car. He's been looking at all sorts of ridiculous two seater convertible things (hardly suitable for our family), but when I commented that it seemed as though he was looking at babe magnets, he got all shirty about it (given his history, I have every right to be wary about this).
I'm quite prepared to accept the fact that I'm probably being unreasonable about all of this.
I would like to hear your viewpoints.
Thanks.