So hard to make the final decision

[yoyo27]

I KNOW that I need to end it with my partner, but making the final decision, acting on it, and him realising I am serious are a lot more difficult!!

Things change at home fora short while after a row but then always change back again. And ultimately I am not happy.

Argh!!

The first step is admitting that it's over, so you are there on that front.

It's not easy. I was there with my exH and let it go on for far too many years before finally saying enough was enough and I wanted out.

I wished I'd have done it sooner rather than wasting so many years in an unhappy marriage.

Well done for making the decision that it's time to end things.

As for carrying it out, what needs to be done on a practical level? Eg splitting finances, any children, do you own a property together? It might help to make a list and start to work through it, break it down into smaller tasks rather than one big one.

It's my house (owned with my exH), two children together, separate finances.

It's so hard though! I never planned on being a single mum of six!

I can feel what you are going through as my DD was in your position 3 yrs ago,she had to make the split or her OH would have had her an emotional wreck they also had 2 DCs and she had 4 from her previous marriage she thought she was giving a sence of security again with this man but he made clear the distinction between the DCs was not going to be equal at any stage of the relationship,he did not like the fact that the elder DCs had an opinion and they where old enough to voice it to him,she showed him the door and she has been much happier ever since she just made sure all her finances where in place first.

Well he is a great step dad so I can't fault him on that. Plus good around the house etc.

But the same problems keep rearing their ugly head....problems as a step family, issues with the house etc etc. for example, he works from home and we agreed I would do the house stuff etc and he would work 9-5 hours. Then at 5pm he would take over and do dinner etc. Which is great! But all I get it criticism if I haven't done everything needed. But our girls are 18 months and 5 months. I cannot leave them alone unless the eldest is in her high chair. To be fair, I do get it all done, the only issue is that the ironing pile builds up. But there are 8 people in this house! 10 at weekends!! There is never any appreciation for everything that I HAVE done, only gripes at stuff I haven't managed to do yet. Then once the kids are in bed I also run my own business.

I fed up with the lack of support and the criticism, and that is just one problem!!