Bit long - sorry but I've been out of the dating game for 100 years and I don't speak 'bloke' so I don't understand.....and need advice.
Background - as brief as I can....
I separated from husband about 9 months ago. My choice.
Pretty much straight after this became 'public' knowledge, a dad at my child's Saturday club contacted me via email. We had always got on well and had a laugh. He became pretty full on pretty quickly - basically telling me that he'd fancied me for a long time but obviously never made a move because I was married. Although it was very soon after my split, I agree to go out on a few dates. He was v v v keen and v v v flattering and we got on like a house on fire. Pretty soon, I also fancied the pants (literally) off him so threw caution to the wind and went for it. I had a great couple of months - we saw each other about once a week but he text continually and kept saying how much he liked me/couldn't believe his luck that I was with him etc. He also said more than once that he expected me to hurt him at some point. However, he also has a mad, mad social life and although I didn't expect him to give it up for me, I started to get a bit pissed off that I was expected to fit in around his other plans. I then went through a total crisis of confidence linked to stb-ex being a shit, dealing with the fall out from my split, huge work stress etc etc. I got a bit difficult (bit clingy and seeking reassurance - not like me at all) and he stopped texting so often and was much much less attentive (not sure what came first - me being a bit of a idiot or him suddenly cooling off.) This of course made me feel worse and I was convinced he was going off me fast. I then went ballistic over a very innocuous text he sent ( regarding how often I expected to see him) and ended the relationship by text (not classy I know! But I was all over the place). He agreed and that was that. I then massively regretted it but there was not a lot I could do. And I still had to see him at club. The first couple of times was awful with fairly stilted conversation in a group with other parents. A couple of times, I tried to make contact via text in friendly way ( probably hoping for an opening??) but only got one liners back incl. "I was and still am interested in you" however after couple of texts he stopped replying so I stopped texting. A couple of months went by and then we end up at a club with no other parents around. We had a great conversation - just like old times - laughs and jokes. He constantly referenced old jokes, places we were together and sort of asks if he could come round to my place one evening (it's about time you cooked for me - he had cooked me some fab meals when we were together). At the end, he gives me a quick hug and says "you know where I am" so I text him later in the week and invite him over. He says yes please - I send him some dates but he can't make any of them. I leave it with him to get back to me with some dates he can do .......... he says he'll be in touch and then nothing ....3 weeks later and not heard a word. Not seen him since either as club has stopped. I sent him a joke-y text a week ago but no answer. So.....Do I persist? Text again? Ask again? Or do I accept that if he wanted to come round he would have text me by now so leave it alone. I don't want to make a fool of myself here but if he wasn't interested anymore why behave and say what he did the last time we met? As I said, I haven't dated since the dawn of time and I don't speak bloke. God I hate this! Feel like I'm 16 again. :(