separation not progressing

[conway]

My Husband was away on a business trip last week and when he was away I was so much happier and dreaded him coming back.
On his return he insisted on going out with his mates drinking the next evening,when I thought he should be with his family.
These sorts of issues related to his drinking have been going on for years and I have recently bought up the divorce word. However he doesn't take it seriously and is just really nice to me for a while until the next time.
I have moved into the spare room for 2 days to see if that helps.
We have also had counselling which helped a bit.I really want out of the relationship but don't know how to progress,also worry about my 2 boys ,age 8and 12.

The only way you can progress if he won't take you seriously is to make an appointment with a solicitor and start the divorce unilaterally. DCs tend to be better off in a harmonious environment whether that's with parents under the same roof or separate ones.

How will sleeping in the spare room for a couple of days make any differenc ?

Your H obviously has no respect for you, and if you keep threatening and not following through it will diminish further

Put your money where your mouth is and get legalled up, pronto

I know entirely where you are coming from, told my DH i wanted to split,it 3 weeks ago, he promised to go to relate, make more effort to make time for us/ arrange his family to babysit etc and noen of it has come to fruition other than he has done a little bit more round te house, which isnt difficult. Bit by bit the last week or so he has reverted to type and i am left in e same position. I partly want to proceed wit the divorce application without telling him as he clearly doesnt take me seriously at the moment but not sure if that is a bit mean. Feel like i am in limbo but also realise that if anything needs to happen, it will only be bcause i have set it in motion if you know what i mean, waiting for bim to sort himself isnt working and we are goi round in circles and have been for months - its only going to get worse in my experience and You will be like me, putting your children before you, but ultimately your children look to you for examples of how life is and to act, and is being miserable and doing nothing about it, a good example? You have my sympathy sweetheart as it is a very hard and big decision to make x