ExP rebound relationship on rocky ground!

[louby44]

As many of you know I split with exP last Dec. He quickly met someone and he moved out and then in together in February. Our house is up for sale with little interest. He has claimed to be wonderfully happy but deep down I knew it wasn't really true. We were together for 6 years, mostly happy!

This weekend they had gone to stay with friends as it was the ArmyVNavy Rugby at Twickenham, something we did a few times as a couple. I thought about them all weekend, having a fab time and wishing I was with them, but busied myself and got on with stuff!

Yesterday afternoon I had a text off him saying "I took the wrong person to the rugby, it should have been you!"

I was shocked and he spent the next hour texting me that:

• his gf and he had got seperated on the train back to London on Saturday, she went mental & blamed him & got her ex to drive 2 hours to come & fetch her in the middle of the night!
• he still has feelings for me, he misses the stuff we used to do together
• he should have made more of an effort to work things through, he wishes he'd made time to go for counselling like we discussed
• he has little in common with his new gf
• he's getting medical help for depression

She was packing stuff up to move out yesterday but I think they have now talked things through and made up!

I was utterly shocked at all of his revelations. There I was living my own little nightmare, getting through my life,trying to date again and believing he was in a happier place and he isn't at all.

I should be gloating but I just feel very bloody sad!

Why does it matter what someone's feelings are, anyway, when their actions are so unkind? I might feel I ought to put some money in a charity box, and that might make me feel like a good person, but unless I actually do it the starving children won't notice the difference. Likewise if you dump a partner in the shit, they're still in it, whether you're crying your eyes out at night or not.

You sound like you've got your head screwed on right Louby, but from what you've written, it sounds like your ex's relationship is heading for the crapper.

They might have 'talked things through and made up' for now, but it definitely sounds like trouble in paradise, and if she was on the verge of leaving over this, and bearing in mind the self-serving crap he wrote to you, I think it's only a matter of time.

Just beware that when this one goes tits up (and if I was a betting woman I'd bet it's sooner rather than later) he might come rebounding right back to you.