Dealing with losing a friend?

[lilypink1977]

In dire need of some help & advice please. I've recently been so down and upset over a very good friend letting me down & putting her own feelings above helping me through a difficult situation (don't want to go into details sorry) despite me telling her why I'm upset & hurt her behaviour has not improved. She'll sometimes speak to me and other times ignore me. She'll send FB messages as though nothing is wrong after ignoring me & then ignore my messages completely! I'm so confused & upset with it all and it's becoming really all encompassing!

So my question is how do you deal with someone you see at the school gates almost daily who used to be one of your closest friends & who ur kids are still best friends? It's breaking my heart that my kids miss out so I still invite the children for play dates and am remaining amicable with my friend but it's coming increasingly difficult and I don't know what to do. The situation is not repairable but I need some advice as to how to deal with things day to day- am dreading the school run at the moment :0(

Do you have other freinds? I've sort of been in your position, & I held my head high & ignored the stupid behaviour. Not easy, and I was so upset inside, but as far as she was concerned I didn't let it show.
I made more effort with other friends and encouraged my dd to make more of other friendships.
When you need people, you discover who is really your friend and who couldn't give a shit.
Think you've got your answer.

I'm in this situation with my oldest friend of 33 years. I am heartbroken, but we haven't spoken about the situation to each other. Guess we weren't such good friends after all.

I will just have to let it go, maybe you will too. I sad isn't it?

Losing a friend is always sad but having to continue seeing them on a daily basis and pretend nothing happened is really painful.

I'd also encourage my dc to make new friends, cut down online communication to a bare minimum, since it can all be very misleading and passive aggressive in the online world. Deal with her in the real world only, and try to slowly detach from her company.

It's a good thing you spoke to her about the problem, so she knows why you're distancing yourself.

Thanks everyone for your advice. Since all this started I made a real effort to join some classes & do much more with some other friends who have been supportive. It's so sad and it really really hurts but I think you're right to cut down on the non-real communication & like you say I've told her what the problem is & yet nothing has changed so I can't really do any more.
Think I'll have to become annoyingly super cheerful at the school gate & rise above it but some days it's hard to do that when all you feel is hurt inside xx

Losing a close friend is so painful. It's generally viewed as not much to get bothered about but goodness knows why because imo it's right up there in the painful stakes. You have my total sympathy ((hug))

Keep going, you're doing the right thing. You can do this xx

Awww thank you lovely xx