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END OF MY TETHER

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madhouse2 · 26/08/2006 23:01

Iam so fed up with doing everything
dh works nights but does nothing when he gets home he can't even bring his dirty washing down
i worked the other day and he was off so looked after dc but did no housework the house was a tip dishwasher not done etc
he is always saying i only work 4 hrs a day he does 9 fine but he doesn't include bef i start work i have to get the kids dressed drop off at school/mums then work ie up at 7 but don't start work til 10 (no breaks tt work) finish at 2 pick up kids make tea bath bed by 8 he has a break after 1 1/2 hr doesn't always start work straight away and can go for a sleep etc
i do only work 3 days but i really winds me up i feel like hes another child that i have to pick up after tried talking to him but nothing changes
i just want some support is it to much to ask

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bamik · 27/08/2006 00:04

I don't think you're asking too much. He needs to lighten the load don't you think! My hub is the same if not worse. I am still on mat leave at the mo and go back to work full time at the end of October. He does nothing in the house and never looks after our 10month old because he is 'too busy'! I love my dc to bits but need a bit of 'me time' as well.

Sorry to rant but I really don't think you're asking for much.

x

milward · 27/08/2006 00:07

You need a break as you're working when you do your home duties. Can you talk to him about this?

Molesworth · 27/08/2006 00:08

No you're not asking too much. Frankly it makes my blood boil and I wouldn't put up with it for one moment. Why do these men have families if they can't be bothered to put in any effort?

horsecrazy · 27/08/2006 00:10

you are not asking too much I agree with bamik......I also have the same problem with DH washing builds up by the washing machine and it only takes me to do it, otherwise it would be a mountain and would sit and rot......clean washing it put on the stairs and he walks by it and its only taken up stairs by me or me nagging to him to do it...........Men they suck sometimes huh

bamik · 27/08/2006 00:12

My point exactly Molesworth! Since becoming a mother I now REALLY understand that a 'womans work is never done'!

We are on call 24 / 7.

When my dc was teething I was up in the middle of the night a few times just to comfot him of give him some calpol! But it's soooooooooooo tiring. Physically and mentally drained I am right now. A bit (even a incy wincy bit), of support would be nice! AAAAAAAAAAGgggggggggghhhhh it just makes me sooooooooo mad!

Molesworth · 27/08/2006 00:15

Don't put up with it! Put your foot down!

bamik · 27/08/2006 00:16

I mean. Why are we still up? It's past midnight and here we are "Airing" on mumsnet when we should be tucked up in bed!

Well I have not long making up feed for early morning wake up call from dc and this is the only time I have to have a little me time! Sure it's the same for most of you. I am sooooooooo ticked off right now!

milward · 27/08/2006 00:18

It's my free time as well - everyone asleep apart from me

horsecrazy · 27/08/2006 00:19

Me too, I am still up just getting the washing from today sorted out and where is my DH in bed fast asleep

milward · 27/08/2006 00:20

Should be doing the ironing....

orangegiraffe · 27/08/2006 00:20

Sorry to hear this, I have this from time to time, I used to put up with it and now I tell them all to get their fingers out to help tidy iyswim(even the kids).

horsecrazy · 27/08/2006 00:22

tell me your secret orangegiraffe......no serious..I tell my lot until I am blue in the face and I am still taken for granted.......

bamik · 27/08/2006 00:27

Orangegiraffe, do U mean that even DH helps around the house too? PLEASE let us in on the secret

orangegiraffe · 27/08/2006 01:08

Tbh, this has been a recent thing since I have gone back to work after maternity leave.Them lot make the mess they can clean it up.
I was fuming with dh the other day, read the f***g fuming with dh thread.
I could of kicked his bum that day.

lenats34 · 27/08/2006 09:36

Hi ladies,

We had the oppotunity to split the maternity leave between us. This way dh. got 2 months ALONE with dd. with ALL the housework HA,HA. THAT really did us good. I DO very well remember what he said prior to his leave. "I am going on HOLIDAY". I had him repeat that twice, just to make sure I heard him right. When I came home from work on his first "Holiday" he immidiately came up to me and said. "I think there is something wrong with her" I asked why, and he said: "Well, she would only sleep 1½ hours in morning and 1½ hours this afternoon" (She was 8 mo. old at this time). So ofcause my answer was like this: "This the amount of time she usually sleeps". Then the poor man went pale. But ladies, he became used to it.

Lena

horsecrazy · 28/08/2006 23:58

well my lovely DH is leaving me...........he says he doesn't love me anymore and is leaving me and his four kids.............no other explain has been given.............nice huh.

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madhouse2 · 29/08/2006 22:47

oh horsecrazy iam sorry were you expecting it or is this news out of the blue
personally i think i would be made up if my husband left but hes to lazy!!
hope your ok keep your chin up!!

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bamik · 30/08/2006 00:06

HC, so sorry to hear this. I pray that you'll be able to talk things through and sort out whatever the problem is...........

horsecrazy · 30/08/2006 02:36

well he left me today, and everyone else knew including the neighbours dogs that he was planning to leave before me and the kids?.....

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madhouse2 · 31/08/2006 21:25

hc how are you doing?
how awful that everyone knew before you what a rat!! or something else that rhymes did no body tell you?
has he given another reasons as to why hes unhappy you and the kids deserve some answers

hope your ok

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