Dh and I always seem to have the same row, repeated every few weeks. I feel that we don't spend enough 'quality time' together, and he basically can't see what I'm getting worked up about. The problem lies in how much 'quality time' we spend together - I think it's too little, he thinks it's ok. During a typical day we talk several times a day on the phone, then in the evening we have dinner together as a family, then we do the "getting the children to bed" thing together. But then... I go on Mumsnet, dh reads the paper. Then dh has a lie down till about 9, while I do a few jobs or watch TV or whatever. After that we sometimes watch something together, but our tastes are very different, so often I'll be on the computer while he watches TV or vice versa. At some stage we'll have a five minute (literally 5 minutes) cuddle and chat, 99 out of a 100 times initiated by me (which really annoys me), and then at about 10 I'll got to bed while he stays up till about midnight. And that's it - we basically hardly spend any time TOGETHER, just under the same roof. Dh reckons that's how couples live, and I'm mad to think that others are having long meaningful conversations at night. In part I'm happy to just live like that, but then a part of me has this nagging feeling that our relationship isn't good enough, that there should be more. So I'd be interested to know what your typical evening is like - is it all candle-lit dinners? (Go on - depress me )