Time to go. Tell me the good stories.

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My marriage is over. Gently, calmly, with no particular fault on either side, but it's gone. I am very fond of him, and I he of me. We both adore our girls. But you can't just stay together because of the kids, can you? I don't want to resent him or become a nun, a thing with a career and two kids and the TV on every night until we're 75. We're not in love; I like and admire him immensely, but I don't love him - we're used to each other and fond of each other and our lives are intertwined since our early twenties (we've been together fifteen years). That's not the same thing as real love, is it? Well, whatever: I can't settle for it.

So. I'd like to hear from any Mumsnetters who have made the break positively and without regret or rancour. I don't want to hear about the bastards and the screaming: I want to hear about how you used to be married to a good man, but it didn't work out, and you're still friends.

Too much to ask?

I used to be married to a good man! We've been divorced for 8 years. He mows my lawn. Rings me when he knows I'm having a rough time. He fixed my toilet last week.

He's a good friend and someone I talk to.

Family have admired how we split and dealt with our kids, very mature.

I've just come out of a 6 year relationship and he was the first person I told, he's been very supportive. I wish I still loved him, but I don't!

He's still bloody handsome too!

hi. I mostly have a positive story. together 13 yrs, known each other for yrs before that. split necessary really.

DDS happier. completely put 1st in split and their needs now. I'm definitely happier. not sure about ex, who had wanted the split. he has struggled as he lost more in walking away due to his job and therefore possible contact.

but I'd say we are friends and will in the end be firm friends. we sit next to each other at school plays. attend parents evening together. did Christmas and dd1 b day together.

DDS can contact either parent at any point. photos of ex in their rooms and his phone numbers on display in kitchen.

you can make it work but its not all roses. but it is better than the alternative I think.