I am thinking of leaving DH. I feel bad because after reading many of the posts on here he doesn't seem that bad, but I'm fed up feeling like i'm the only one trying.
I will try to be quick and relevant. DH was spoiled by his mum, and can be more childish than our 5 year old. He is stubborn to the stage that if I had told him "you will change dirty nappies" he would have made a point of never doing it (he will cut his nose off to spite his face and has done this sort of thing in the past). (btw I know how to handle him so he did change the nappies.)
When I became pregnant I had to sleep in an upright position due to problems. It was easier for me to move into the spare room so I could prop myself up at the wall beside the bed. When DS was born DH was working and had a long commute so I stayed sleeping in the spare room so that I wouldn't disturb him when I was BF at night. DH switched jobs and I weaned DS so I told him I would be moving back to sleep with DH again, however after a year and a half of having the bed and room to himself DH declared that he couldn't sleep as I was keeping him awake. He complained of my snoring yet when I got a device that gave me an electric shock if I snored, it shocked me all night with the volume of HIS snoring which he found funny. He also says I heat the bed up to much. At this point I gave up for a few months but when I saw a Councillor for my depression the subject raised its head again. She said he needed to be more accommodating, and I should work on giving him lists of housework daily rather than moan that he never did any.
So I did the whole list thing, and he stormed out of the bedroom each night then slept most of the day between his shifts and played a computer game at night until I gave up as the tension between us was too much.
He lost his job and I have supported us while he has done two years part time at University to get better qualified for a job which has still not materialized. DS is now 5 and still sleeping in a cotbed (feet almost touching the bottom) So again I have said to DH that DS needs his own bed and room. DH says we need two single beds in our room which we cant afford to buy ( that still wouldn't solve the snoring problem he says exists never mind me putting up with his snoring).
This is the straw that broke the camels back so to speak as housework is also an issue. He isn't working but I still end up doing most of the housework and if I leave a note it has to be very detailed of what he has to do. Empty and fill the dishwasher is not enough, I have to say get all the dirty glasses and plates he left round the house, dishes from the sink and add an extra note to clean his dirty pots and grill trays.
I have decided that I need one month to tidy the house to a stage where It might be acceptable to let people view it for sale (yes it is that bad as DH never throws anything out) after that point I will tell DH that I am moving back with my mum and taking DS with me.
I know I am suffering with depression at the moment but these underlying causes are going to continue until I make a change and this is the only one I see I have left to make.