40th and no friends to celebrate with ... feeling down :(

[Aknowinggrin]

Feeling a bit down at the moment..... it's my 40th at the weekend and I'll likely be spending it all by myself. Close friends are hundreds of miles away and most of my local friends are not that close (and they have their own husbands, families etc anyway). In my circle of friends quite a few of us are turning 40 this year and they have had surprise parties/trips etc organised by their significant others..... I'll on the other hand be completely by myself on the day with no plans . I separated last year (best thing I ever did!!) and although I'm happy to be single, it would have been nice to have someone special to share the date with...

Just offloading really..... might book a massage or something on the day to take my mind off the date itself

goldie

Go round the shops and buy yourself some presents on the day. Have a free make-up session in one of the department stores. Then go home and have a trying on session with music up loud and a glass of wine. Text everyone you know with a comment about your being 40 omg! Do the M&S ready meal thing someone mentioned and splash out on an extra special bottle of wine. Before you know it the day will be over.

You have obviously come a long way in the last year. Well done you.

Ah well if it makes you feel any better I was running away from a psycho on my 40th he smashed my place up and I ended up calling the police it was the worst birthday ever!!! I did get rid of him though and met someone else eventually I'm 42 this year! I'd take you out and re celebrate mine lol but don't know were you live ? X

I don't know if you have the budget but sod a massage, book a last minute trip for the weekend. Go to Rome or Venice or New York, somewhere where loads of tourists are and sight see.
Happy Birthday young-un!

Happy Birthday!!!

But this whole friends thing is so hard, isn't it? I've lived I the same town all my life, but a lot of my friends gradually moved away and the gaps don't seem haven't been filled by 'natural causes' and my social circle is rather sparse. In my younger years I seemed to make friends quite by chance, but now (I'm 39) it seems so much harder.

I agree with the posters who suggest that your 41st birthday could make up for your 40th. Make it a goal to do something social at least once a week for the next year, if possible. I've joined a book club and our local WI (a lot of WI's are now aimed at younger women), I'm making an effort to cultivate a few potential friendships at work, with lunch/coffee outings, and it's coming together slowly. I'm not a "natural" at this by any means, but it does get easier.