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too soon to be in love?

29 replies

mummyOF4darlings · 27/04/2014 22:40

Have been with my guy 6 weeks apart from hardly getting to spend anytime together everything is fab. Hes just my type look wise, funny, caring and most importantly i feel really comfortable round him. Since day 1 ive felt this very strong attraction towards him and i know its easy to confuse lust with love and i am usually very cautious due to past experiences.

The last couple weeks after ending phone calls hes been saying "love ya" not in a serious way but in a soppy teenager sort of way iyswim, I am quite weary of throwing "I love you" around willy nilly but last night I did say it back to him and he seemed over the moon and said that he really does love me and he knows it sounds silly after such a short time etc, so we ended up pouting our heart out to each other was on the phone until 2am, went to bed with butterfiles and nearly in tears because i was all alone..... I know i sound a right sad act.

Anyway woke up thinking wtf feel like ive let my guard down by sharing my feelings. Last guy i felt like this about hurt me so bad by messing with my head and cheating and basically been a general arse to me. I hate to compare but they are very similar in looks and personality etc. Jus the things he says to me ive heard before off the other guy, it was a long time ago and its in the past now but still haunts me, ive not had much luck with men full stop. I feel guilty though imagine if he found out i was comparing him to some arse like that.

Just wish i could be all relaxed and care free and just take every day as it comes instead of my stupid worries

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WildBill · 28/04/2014 20:23

Stop worrying - Enjoy this as it is, just don't rush into moving in or joint bank accounts :-)
I'm not sure when expressing feelings becomes not a red flag....... 3 months/6 months/ a year? as you can see from some posters here they've had the same early on and are still happy.
Sounds like a nice easy going 'courting' between 2 people that like each other. Enjoy it.

Tinks42 · 28/04/2014 20:30

Id personally call it lust. How on earth could you be in love with each other you don't know each other. I recently dumped a man that told me he loved me after 2 months.... ummm we don't even know each other yet? For me its a HUGE red flag.

mummyOF4darlings · 28/04/2014 22:10

Thanks again, Im not rushing into anything such as moving in or marriage etc and deff no babies Grin. I know i may seem desperate (i probilly am deep down) but Ive got my children to think about ive been a single parent for 8 years on and off and got our home life just how i want it

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akaWisey · 29/04/2014 01:05

Just have fun for now but keep your wits about you. I met my ex husband for a drink and we were together 20 years after that first night!

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