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Original poster

WWYD .... ExH texted me by mistake

32 replies

ToddlersRFab · 27/04/2014 21:27

Asking me to dress in girdle and new seams. Then a second text telling me he sent it by mistake.

Would you reply or ignore. We have a rather hostile relationship and it has just re opened healing wounds.

I really just want to be abusive but don't think that's an option.

OP posts:
itiswhatitiswhatitis · 27/04/2014 21:29

Ignore that will bug him more than any reply

50KnockingonabiT · 27/04/2014 21:30

silence is golden, and damn annoying :D

LEMmingaround · 27/04/2014 21:30

ignore!! he sent it by mistake my arse - he is trying to rile you, can you block his number or do you need to have contact due to DC?

MisForMumNotMaid · 27/04/2014 21:31

Delete both messages. Poor wine. Drink wine. Hope that tomorrow its not too much in your thoughts.

Swishswash · 27/04/2014 21:31

Like hell was that sent by accident Grin

Itis speaks wise words. Ignore ignore ignore :)

handfulofcottonbuds · 27/04/2014 21:33

Idiot!

IME - there are no 'mistake' texts. If you were sending that, you'd be very careful who you sent it to in case it was your DM, your boss etc. He's messing with your head. Don't reply.

My stbxh did a similar thing early on in our break up and text me again hours later saying it wasn't meant for me when I didn't reply.

It will bug him for you to not reply.

LackaDAISYcal · 27/04/2014 21:33

ignore. Maintain the moral high ground!

Paddlingduck · 27/04/2014 21:33

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Hassled · 27/04/2014 21:33

A girdle and new seams? What does that even mean? Has he gone back to the world of Little House on the Prairie? Or am I just old and naive?

Ignore. He'll be feeling embarrassed anyway - not knowing what you're thinking will be torture.

Wishyouwould · 27/04/2014 21:33

It's possible he is playing games with you. I had a similar text off my abusive STBXH last week. I don't believe for a minute it was sent to me by mistake. Ignore, delete and block if you don't need contact with him i.e DC together.

ProminentSnoz · 27/04/2014 21:35

These texts are never text by mistake.

Completely ignore, it'll annoy the arse off 'im.

tribpot · 27/04/2014 21:35

Imagine him dressed in a girdle and new seams, whatever the hell that is.

Laugh. Drink wine. Forget the fucker.

Redcoats · 27/04/2014 21:36

A girdle? Is his new gf in her 80s?

Delete it and forget about it. Can you block him?

RedRoom · 27/04/2014 21:36

Ignore. It was probably sent on purpose unless you had been texting him very shortly before and he replied to you instead of the other person (this has happened to me). Fishy that of all the messages that could go astray it's a sexy one to some woman and it went to you...

AnyFucker · 27/04/2014 21:36

eh ?

Just ignore, what possible good could come out of engaging ? Confused

handfulofcottonbuds · 27/04/2014 21:37

WTF is a girdle anyway in the 21st century? And new seams????

Idiot!

phalanges · 27/04/2014 21:38

Ignore. Enjoy the high ground as I bet he sent it to you on purpose.

Original poster
ToddlersRFab · 27/04/2014 21:54

Thank you all. You are all right that I should ignore it.

I shall rant on here instead. The fucking arse hole....He ring s ds everyday. But I shall get a new phone so he can have his own number.

OP posts:
gamerchick · 27/04/2014 21:56

Yes ignoring will drive him nuts.. ignoring always drives people nuts. Worra knob.

Placeinthesun · 27/04/2014 21:57

Forward it on to everyone you know who he still knows with reply to him 'this wasn't meant for me so have forwarded it on to all our mutual contacts so it will eventually get to right person'

.... No no. Ignore.

ImperialBlether · 27/04/2014 21:58

What kind of phone does he have? Can't he see conversations?

theonewiththevoodoo · 27/04/2014 21:59

ooh yes... rant away on here,

but ignore him, hes acting like a twelve year old..

betcha glad hes an ex!

AnyFucker · 27/04/2014 22:00

yes,I think a PAYG purely for DS and him is a good idea

any "inappropriate" sexual stuff sent to your ds goes straight to Cafcass

that'll shit him up

TheReluctantCountess · 27/04/2014 22:00

Ignore it. He'll be worrying about it so let him stew.

littlegreengloworm · 27/04/2014 22:03

He rings everyday.. That's intrusive, too. Uh, he sounds yuck.. Girdle < shudder>

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