how long to wait between first and second dates

[conistonoldwoman]

Had an enjoyable date on Saturday and and my date said it would be nice to meet up again. No firm plans made at the time and so far , 24 hours later, no contact from him.
Should I take this as he's not keen to pursue things?
Reluctant to 'chase' after him but I did really like him!

Consiston. I made the mistake of checking if my date was online arranging to meet other women. Apparently it's the done thing with old to be meeting a number of different people at the same time.(it's new to me too)
I took a risk and actually asked my date if this was what he was doing. It turns out he wasn't but was checking if I was online doing it. It meant for days both of us were checking each other's online status assuming the worst.

Try not to stress about it.

Think he's probably looking at other potential dates..he's been online on the dating site this week. :(
So I'll start browsing again myself :) although I'm beginning to wonder if I can be bothered with all the hassle!
Sent him a text about 3 hours ago.. no reply yet.

Just seen your reply canihavea slice. Thanks but I just get the feeling he may be having second thoughts but then why did he suggest meeting up again at the end of the date. All bloody confusing!

I'm going through the same thing woman! I find it makes me feel insecure, I'd rather know either way. I have also checked online and seen him there. Whats with the taking turns in texting, so confusing.

Who knows. It is confusing and the thing is you never want to ask outright encase you seem needy so it means both of you end up trying to second guess whats going on in each other's heads.

The best thing you can do is go back to browsing and arranging to meet more people. If he liked you he will message you back to arrange a date and if he doesn't well you chalk it up as experience and move on.

It is hard and it will take you a while to get the hang of this dating lark. It could be he has had second thoughts and the same may happen to you with someone. It just may not have clicked for him but he wasn't sure how to say it. But I could be wrong too, so really try not to think about it because you'll just drive yourself mad.

Kind of reassuring to know it's not just me then!
He has replied to my text at least!
Like you say, just maybe meet a few more people and try not to over think things.

When I met dh I had been single on and off for years and played by all those stupid dating rules but with dh it just flowed there was no waiting for three days before contacting each other and fwiw it was supposed to be a one night stand we got married six months after said one night stand nine years and two kids later we are still together!

It has only been one date. I think it's normal to keep options open and you should probably do the same.
I'd expect some exclusivity after a few dates, or further progress.

He doesn't seem particularly keen, but it can be a good thing and sometimes it is better to develop things slowly than to rush into it.

See how it goes.

Agree with Lweji re. chatting to a few people at the same time, another benefit is that it stops you getting too hung up on any one particular bloke and over-analysing texts/dates etc.

Thanks everyone..I feel a lot better about it now.
I do think he's a rather shy type... me too in some ways! But that's what appeals to me.
Anyway no more texting coming from me..I'll leave it up to him.

I agree , no more texting. See how he'll respond to this and take it from there. If he is keen, he'll nudge you. If he doesn't, you are better off without him.
Look up other people and keep your options open.

New date planned for monday with someone else..no lengthy email conversations with this one. Just a speedy arrangement to meet up.
So no great expectations this time.. best way of approaching it I think!

Good luck for Monday. At least I hope that you have a good time.

Good plan, a few short emails to check you've got a few things in common/similar outlook then arrange a meet-up to see if there's a spark in the real world. Depending how that goes you can decide if you want to arrange a proper date.