Me and my partner have been together over 9 years and we have a 6 year old DS.
For the last year or so we've been arguing quite alot. Mostly about how to raise DS and about money.
I work 30hpw and my wages pay for almost everything. Partner doesn't work and is in receipt of disability allowance and pays the phone bill . I'm fed up with him hiding money and telling me we can't afford to do things then spends a fortune on ebay (latest was over £250 on SAMURI ARMOUR of all things
) When I questioned him about it he flipped his lid at me and told me "it's my fucking money and I will do what I want with it" well thats great we've barely any food in the house and he's wasted money that could've been used elsewhere! All I want is a bit of help with the food shopping or bills and he refuses.
He can also be verbally abusive to me in front of DS calling me a miserable bitch or tells DS to ignore me because I'm just being a cow.
In regards to DS, partner pretty much lets him have run of the house when I'm at work. He very rarely gets up to makes him breakfast preferring to leave cereal on the side and a small jug of milk in the fridge for DS to sort himself or leaves him sweets and crisps out. I've tried moving the crisps and sweets out of DS's reach but once I'm at work partner gives him them back! I've also come home on Saturday/Sunday after work to find partner is still in bed or gone back to bed leaving DS unsupervised. Partner then wonders why I get so angry with him.
Things are getting so bad recently that I'm considering leaving him and moving back up north. I can't cope with the rows and the insults any more. 