NC for a year with my sister. She wants to talk. WWYD?

[Pigginnora]

Went NC with sister due to lots of little issues. Seriously over stepping boundaries. Insulting me after I had a MMC. Critical of my dp & dc.

Finally I lost it when she started talking nonsense about my ds who has ASD. I literally shut down. Cut her off. Told her why. Even though we were very close, I haven't missed her...probably makes me a bit weird!

There will be an event in a couple of weeks I can't avoid. My sister will be there. She texted me today, saying, did I think it was time we had a chat. My gut response was NO! But I've got to face her at some point. I've not seen her at all. Our parents are ill & possibly not many years left. They both want us to make it up. We also have another sister & brother.

So should I talk to her? Is there any point? I know she hasn't changed but i have so not sure how to manage this. Should i make up even if it's all false just for our parents sake?

Thanks for any advice. I'm exhausted thinking about this & have lost all perspective.

Ignore her texts. Ignore her requests for a chat.

Be icily polite to her at the event. If she starts anything, leave the room. If she makes any dogs at you, ignore.

She sounds awful. Do not engage on any level with her. It's just not worth it.

agree with WinkyWinkola

go for your dad's sake but just be polite - busy yourself with your children - if she tries to corner you, say "sorry, must dash the children need me"

good on you for ignoring the dictates and texts - she sounds awful

Don't have a 'chat' with her - just turn up at the event and be bland towards her: not nice, not nasty.

I can't help thinking she has some measure of the ASD that's floating about in your family line.