Feeling so alone whilst he plays meet the Fockers

[lemonbabe]

Just out of hospital feeling groggy, painful. Just learned from kids that whilst I was in hospital dad was introducing the new bit to the family with them doing all the catering.

It's normal, I know, as it's been 2 years since he upped and left but I feel discarded. I started a relationship last year and it never turned out, we split up after 6 months.

Just feeling so vulnerable and alone in this state.

I'm here

Can understand how you feel... must have felt like opportunistic behaviour from your XH.

Hope you're feeling better after coming out of hospital.

Sorry you are going through this. It will get better. Hope you're ok now?

oh thanks girls, am just having a weep, thank God you are there, I have no family here and friends are great but they have lives and putting on them all the time is impossible.

had an awful reaction to the general anesthetic and it brought on a kind of anxiety attack... I just feel so shaky and weak :-/

thanks again for your support it means a lot.

Wish you well

I had a general anaesthetic in January and felt like shit afterwards. I cried, like proper sobbing. Very weird.

Having said that, it is hard to bear your Ex's shenanigans at the best of times, let along during unwellness.

Hope you are doing ok.

from me too. Being in hospital and coming out to what seems like a lonesome existence is enough to make anybody feel shaky and vulnerable. I can see that you feel as if you have no support and to add insult to injury you have your ex seemingly introducing a partner behind your back. It's not very respectful of him.

You have it here and you'll have it from your children and friends. You'll start feeling better when you've shaken off the 'hospital' and then you can think about what you want to do next. Just because your last relationship didn't work out doesn't mean the next one won't.

Feel better soon.

It really knocked me back to be honest, wasn't expecting feeling like this and the thing with the ex playing happy families just compounds me being alone. LYINGW you are so right, I will get support from my kids and friends - thank God, I have them !!

Did he leave you for this woman, or is she a new girlfriend? Sorry you're feeling bad. I am in and out of hospital a lot with ds and always feel quite vulnerable when we get home.

It will get better and you will bounce back. It's good you can post for, and receive, help on MN.

Hope you weren't in for anything too serious.

and more from devon. x

Sorry you are feeling low your ex scored a few cheap points, probably par for the course. Rest now and focus on getting better, when you are back to health you will give him less head space.

thanks ladies, your words have really helped... if I ate all that though I'd be looking like Billy Bloater

UnlikelyAmazonian, no he didn't leave me for her, he's been with her for a couple of months but got straight into introducing the kids, his family. My DS informed me that she was coming round tonight and they were doing a barbie... daft I know, but these little details hurt.

Still, life must go on and as you say Donkey when I come round from the hospital ordeal I'll be giving him a lot less head space.

aw I feel for you, I was quite tearful when I came out of hospital just wanted to feel looked after and that someone cared esp at that time so I know how lonely it can be.

your ex's timing is impeccable! but just remember he's an ex for a good reason, and though the relationship last year didn't last, doesn't mean that others won't. you have a lot ahead of you to look forward to.

hope you recover soon and remember this feeling will pass

He sounds like an ex for a good reason. Thoughtless twit. (wish there was a Knob emoticon but don't expect MN to provide one of those anytime soon )

Hope you pick up very soon.

Once you are back to your ravishing self you can hold countless barbies over the summer and ds will love prefer your food them.

UnlikelyAmazonian and ds will love prefer your food

ha ha yep, that shouldn't be too difficult - he was xtra cr@p in the kitchen, in fact he hadn't set foot in the kitchen until he walked out on me - was apparently a rude awakening for the poor sod and the kids let him know exactly what they thought of his efforts - which wasn't very much to be honest !!

thanks ladies, you've lifted me so much. Can't wait to be in next week and (hopefully) painfree and fit again.