Ok I have been with and lived with the other half for ten years now. We have two children. 9 year old girl and 5 year old boy. Many many things about our relationship make me unhappy. I can not remember the last time I went a full day without it crossing my mind to end it...
The trouble is I am scared, feel guilty and lost as to how I go about it.. We have split once before for 48 hours and he rang me crying I agreed to him coming to talk and he didn't leave. I feel bad on the kids, yet I know they are suffering because of our dysfunctional relationship, especially our daughter who gets shouted at by him in his constant moods. I have asked him to go, told him I am unhappy, he just ignores me.
He doesn't provide or help around the house. And due to his lazy, unmotivated attitude has got us in thousands of pounds of debt. I am ready to go back to work but fearful as 1 he won't run the house and two I will be working for him to sit on his but and be horrid to me.
The worst thing is we claim jointly for benefits and share the tenancy on the flat. Also when we argue disagree he uses the children by telling them how bad and wrong I am, so is likely to do it during the break up. I know I have to do it but how do I find the strength? I want to run and start again but don't want to uproot the kids(we've moved 7 times since birth of our daughter)and need the flat with its low housing association rent in order to be able to go back to work full and provide for myself and our two children.