Victim support

[delicatematter]

Got a phonecall yesterday from the victim support dept of the police.
DH is going to ring them today.
On Tuesday i went for some counselling with my counsellor who has been on sick for 3 months.

She said it does sound like the police are building a case against the uncle especially when i told her about other members of the family and how they react to him.
She said not to be too harsh on FIL because we dont know what has gone on when he and uncle were children and that if it was my brother how would i think/react?
DH thinks that his FIL thinks he isnt going to press charges against the uncle, we have found out that FIL has stopped associating with the uncle now and DH is pleased about that.
FIL has invited us down for tea on Saturday, DH wants to go, im unsure, DH told me that he wants me to get along with his family and that it would make him happy.
So what do i do?
DH says that when uncle is arrested that he thinks his dad will back him up especially when he founds out the full details.

Im confused.

it could be that your fil wants to find out the state of the case. your fil has tricked your dh before... i'd be wary, but go. and i wouldn't tell him anything about the case, i'd refuse to talk about it. good luck! and glad you got some counsellling too.

I don't know your situation DelicateMatter so I'm finding it hard to comment. Hopefully someone will be along soon x

I agree with warty go but dont talk about the case.

Agree with warty too. Only go if you think your dh can be resolute enough NOT to talk about the case, no matter how much charm and remorse he might be subjected to. Sorry, I can imagine it is difficult for your FIL, but as warty says, he has let your dh down about this more than once. Personally I would not trust him, and only go if you make a cast iron pact to just get up and leave if it turns into a "don't do this to your uncle" session.
Best of luck, glad to hear things are progressing with the police.

Think we might be ok. FIL doesnt know about DH doing the video interview or that he,s prepared to take uncle to court, DH is going to tell him when the officer tells DH that they have arrested the uncle.
Have just spoken to my mum about this at length on the phone, she said that maybe FIL doesnt want to believe it and this is his way of ignoring the situation.
But he wont be able to ignore it for long.