Fucking bastard twunt. Arghhh.

[HappyGoLuckyGirl]

Background: I split up with my P of almost 4 years about 6 weeks ago. I kicked him out. Long history of him being unfaithful, dating sites, fake facebook profiles, lots of porn and lack of sex, etc.

We have a 10 month old DS together.

Anyway, I find out this morning that he has been messaging my cousin (who I'm close to) on facebook basically coming onto her! She's in hospital at the minute with her little boy who is quite poorly, and he has said to her "let me know when you're home and I'll come round and cheer you up".

What. The. Actual. Fucking. Fuck.

Who the HELL does he think he is?! I'm trying my bloody best to maintain a friendly relationship with him for the sake of our son, something which he said he wanted too, and he just keeps behaving disgustingly.

What the hell is wrong with him? My cousin? Really!! Agrhh, I'm so fucking mad at him. Who the hell does he think he is?!

The thing is, I know don't know how to deal with this. I'm smart enough to realise he probably wants a reaction out of me and I really don't want to give him the satisfaction but I also don't want to just let it go.

What can I do? I want to make him see that it's pathetic the way he's behaving and that I feel sorry for him but I don't know how to do that without mentioning it.

Ironically, I've got a great re-bound thing going with a genuinely lovely bloke. We both know where we stand and that we're not going in the relationship direction.

But this has really pissed me off. God knows why. 8 weeks ago I would never have believed he could behave the way he has been doing. It's like I don't know who he is. Like he's sprouted another bloody head.

I think I just needed to rant really. And who better to rant to than the lovely nest of vipers that will agree with how much of a cunt he is.

You can't do anything about it all. You won't make him see it's pathetic, you'll just come across as a bit of a stalker.

All you can do is rise above and ignore. The payoff can take a long time, but behaving in a mature fashion yourself will means a lot in future years. As long as you can look in the mirror and feel proud of the way the person reflected has behaved, you'll be the winner in the long run.

Your X may never feel ashamed of his behaviour, as twunts are quite good at self-justification, but other people probably won't be fooled and his behaviour will look all the more twuntish in comparison to your dignified silence. And for those who fall for his twuntery - well, ask yourself if you really need people like that in your life anyway.

Hope you feel better soon.

Ignore, honestly, I know it must be hard but completely ignore and have the minimum communication with him re your child. What a total sleaze ball.

There's nothing you can do. Unfortunately just ignore. My STBXH has displayed some of the most childish, boorish, ridiculously stupid behaviour over the past few months and made some incredibly stupid decisions, but there's no law against "stupid." (Some days I really wish there were )

Sorry.

Ugh, God. Why do they turn like this? I appreciate that sometimes things don't work out but why the sudden change in who they are?

I was the "love of his life" and bore him a child, for fuck's sake. I don't expect him to love me anymore but jeez, is a little respect too much to ask?!

It's like they try their hardest to be fuckwits, I'm sure they do it on purpose.

Thanks for your replies. It's therapeutic to rant about it here. I'm afraid that people in RL are just bored of it now. Even though it's not me causing the drama!

Such a bloody prick.

My sympathies Happy. I admit that just when I think STBXH can sink no lower, he manages to do just that. He doesn't even have the manners to be embarrassed by his behaviour. That's fine. In the long run, we're separated, and any nonsense he pulls is at least laid right at his doorstep and not mine.

Thanks Alice for you too.

I'll never understand them.

Why they think that becoming an utter shithead is the way to go is beyond me.
Have you any children?

Yes, two. I suppose because we have the children, we have to maintain responsibility and such. He's just off and running - no responsibility, no time constraints, no brain....

Hi op

What has your cousin said to him? Did she not tear him off a strip?

Alice - the change in them is amazing. As soon as you seperate, it's like their responsibility to their children is cut too!

She laughed it off. If it was me I would have given him what for but obviously, she chose not to. She did stop replying after he sent a winky face.

*separate!

You can't fix stupid. Ignore.