What do you think are the limits of 'harmless' flirting when in a relationship?

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I know what people will find acceptable varies but generally, what sort of behaviour do you think is ok and what do you think is too far?

I consider friendly teasing ok but think my DH is pushing the limits with a friend of his but he's making me doubt myself.

OP, you have answered your own question. The 'level' of flirting is not OK if it starts to make your partner uncomfortable. People have different levels of tolerance and what is quite OK for one is totally unacceptable for another. You need to tell your DH how you feel and if he does not curb it, there's your answer.

Gosh, some people are so prim and proper. Me and DH have a right banter about his very young and pretty personal trainer (or his hunky friends ). I don't mind him making jokes about how hot his PT is etc. Last week DH made a funny comment about her wanting to see me which I said no doubt was for some one-on-one girl action. To which my DH replied he's fine with that as long as he can watch :). I don't mind giving him that space to feel a bit of frisson and excitement. And he doesn't mind giving the same space to me. You are in a marriage for a long haul and I don't want it to feel like a long slog of a prison sentence. To be honest, I would feel suffocated married to some characters on this thread.

All that aside, what really matters OP is how YOU feel about the whole thing. If you don't like it, be straight about it. Your partner needs to respect your feelings.

Personally, I have to wonder why someone needs to feel a bit of frisson with someone they're not married to. ..

Because biologically people are not designed to be monogamous (men or women)? It is purely a cultural construct which sadly does not directly correspond with our natural instincts. The best we can do is keep a lid on it and control it using our human brain power. Unfortunately, we don’t magically stop noticing attractive people once married.

Just wondering I love your post. I keep saying similar things. But there are some really buttoned up folks around.