I feel stuck

[blueeyedmonster]

Been with my partner for a number of years. For the past few I have been walking on eggshells. He blows up over nothing. Raises his voice and shouts. Swears at me, tells me if I don't like it I can leave. Blames all sorts on me including his reactions to stuff. Then tells me none of it ever happened. He never said that stuff, I imagine it. Also tells me I'm horrid to live with and he'd be nicer if I had sex with him. The children are scared of him kicking off and he wont accept that fact. I don't know what to do.

I would start to consider exit strategies.

If you cannot discuss your problems without him inviting you to leave then you should. Leave.

Good luck op. It is a very easy thing for me to write but a hard station for you to live.

I'm sorry you're in such an abusive relationship and well done for having the courage to ask for help. Do you have support from family or friends? RL support is very valuable when getting yourself safe. I'd encourage you to contact Womens Aid 0808 2000 247 for practical advice. If you can't get through the first time do keep trying as they can be very busy

Take him up on his offer. You don't like it....so leave.

Leaving is not necessarily the right strategy. The OP may need refuge, admittedly, or it may be more appropriate that they get assistance in evicting this appalling man from their home.