I've posted about this so many times before

[fatedtopretend]

But this time I have actually shouted told him.
I said he has no respect for me , he takes me for granted etc. he's immediately fallen back to sleep after getting in around 6 (he went out at 7 last night). I am very very sad, please, someone, hold my hand and tell me I can do this life alone

(Holds hand) Well done for asserting yourself!

What did he say to that? Was he sorry? Angry?

Do you think you can move past this and he can begin respecting you, or not? Have you got support IRL?

Sorry for all the questions, I've not seen your previous threads before I don't think.

I hope you're okay though, you will be fine. You've proven how strong you can be in letting him know and standing up for yourself, even if it's over, you'll be alright, you'll find the strength and ways to manage.

Oh fated, hold my hand, this isn't any way to live.

You have to make your own mind up how to live your life, but on your own you'd know where you stand and remove the negative and uknowns from your life.

It's amazing what we can do when we set our minds to it, so I am sure you can go forward on your own if that's what you want. for you.

Thank you, when I said it he started to fight back but realised everything I was saying was true and so just said stay. He's not checked his phone since I left. Dd and I are supposed to be staying at his tomorrow (he is not her dad-she's nearly 4 and we've been together about 2 years) she adores him, how should I tell her she won't see him anymore?

I haven't seen your posts before fated, so I don't know the history. I think you need to get some rest and not say or do anything major, just play it by ear and see how it goes. Little steps.

Don't involved your dd in this. No need. Just make alternative plans and do them instead.

You don't have to answer to everyone all the time. This is your life, you can get through it. You don't have to be in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

Involve, not involved. Sorry.

If you stayed with a man that treated you badly for fear of upsetting a 4yo I would say that you were making excuses. So decide what's best for you and just tell her how it's going to be. Even if she notices that you're not going to see this man any more (which isn't a given) she'll be happy with whatever explanation you give her.