A loyal friend or not?

[akaWisey]

In your opinion/experience is this a loyal/real friend?

Doesn't bother to cancel pre-arranged meets but just fails to respond to confirm or simply just doesn't turn up/cancels at the last minute.

Refuses to follow through on an offer of help by publicly ridiculing the request to do so.

Borrows clothes (very good ones) to try on for an outing and returns them having left them in a carrier bag for a week.

Slags off my ex H to the hilt and beyond in private and then announces she bumped into him and had an interesting little chat.

Rolls her eyes when hearing I'm trying the dating scene again.

She isn't is she? Or am I expecting too much?

Do you need to ask this question? I don't think you do. She sounds like a shit friend.

sorry but if thats a friend who needs enemy,s .and why should you not try dating again .

I trusted her .

No that's not a friend that's someone who is using you as a clothes store and offering nothing in return apart from snorts of derision and ridicule.

You are expecting too much from her because she is a frenemie and so normal rules don't apply. You should expect her to tootle off on her own way after you tell her to sling her hook.

Honestly you'd be doing yourself a favour and the only way you could hurt your self esteem more would be to stick pins in your eyes. You don't need people who you call friends to bring you down there's plenty of idiots you don't know who will try.

That's fine, it's not a reflection on you it's a reflection on her. She sounds a two-faced and doesn't sound supportive of you.

You don't need friends like that! I would suggest withdrawing from the friendship.

I agree it is her problem and she will do it to people time and again and when the chips are down she won't have people as willing to go that extra mile for her as she would have if she had treated them with respect.

Far from a loyal friend. In fact not a friend at all. Sorry to hear she has been treating you this way it's crap when someone you trust behaves like that.

I guess I have really. I don't invite her to anything any more and if she phones and asks what I'm up to I just tell her what I'm doing but I don't ask her along. She hasn't got the message yet, still rings but not so often.

I just feel used.

Well she wanted me to help her get a job and that was the last time I saw her. By this time I had had enough so told her I couldn't help her (I am interviewing ).

It would appear that this was the final straw.

I wouldn't call someone like that a friend. Glad you've ditched her but maybe you need to be a little more direct next time she calls? "I'd rather you didn't call me any more"... or similar.

As much as it hurts now Wisey, you will be soooo thankful in the future that you no longer have to deal with this shit. Definitely no friend of yours, and you will be so much better off without her xxx

Yeah, having sharpened up my 'man-picker' I need to do the same with friends.

From what you have said, she certainly does not seem like a loyal friend.

God she sounds awful!!