Quick question re:party invite

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My 6 y.o has 3 freinds (M,A,and T). One of their mums has just rung up to ask if I could take her son and mine to Ms party. We havent got an invitation so I said that I couldnt answer her till Ive got my son to check his draw at school for an invitation. He is quiet forgetful so it wouldnt be the first time hes forgotten or mislaid stuff. So, my question is, given that the boys play as a 4 etc shall I check with M`s mum to see if we should have an invite or is that rude? (there are 3 boys with my sons name in his class so lots of scope for erroe etc).

If the boys definitely play as a group I'd ask. About 6 invitations went missing when it was DD's b'day and i was silently fuming about non responses and asked the mums in question if the kids could come only to be told the invitations hadn't arrived.

Yeah, I'd check but make it very clear you're not offended if he HASN'T been invited (even if you are!), you are just checking.

Agree with Marialuisa, DD was invited to a party last weekend, wasn't until the Friday that her mother asked me if she was coming as I hadn't replied. Invite came home this week on Wed! DD hadn't cleared out her drawer.
Alrenatively - could the mum mention to M's mum that she will be bringing your DS and see what the reply is?

Could the other mum check for you, if drawer search is inconclusive, asking M's mum, along the lines of that she was thinking of asking another mum to take her son and could she just check first that yours, as she was thinking of asking you, was going too?

Supersleuth lizs, I think that's brilliant!

Yes, ask. I did this once, feeling horrible embarrassed, but knew ds1 would be really upset to miss the other boy's party, because they do get on well. The other mum didn't mind, she just said her ds (4) had written the invite list with his sister (6)! Invitation came promptly and no hard feelings.

Thanks everyone. Will do the drawer check tonight and if we havent got one Ill ring M`s mum.