I am 36 and have been with my partner since I was 18 years old. He is 38. We had some tough times in our 20's where we didn't get along (I suffered from depression and poor health) but we got though it and we now have what I think is a very strong relationship, I enjoy being with him, we have a great sex life and I find him very attractive.
Of course I've seen and met other guys I have found attractive before but this is different. One of my closest friends is a man who is married. We are both into the same kind of music so we often go to concerts together. While there we sometimes meet some other friends of his including this man who I am feeling very drawn to at the moment. I have known him for a long time actually but never really spoke to him properly until recently. He isn't the most immediately attractive he is my age, and about the same height as me, very slightly built, balding and wears glasses I'm not saying all that to be mean about his looks only to say he isn't the obvious hunky type. Anyway we were talking and our chemistry was amazing, I was swooning just talking to him, in that moment I wanted to know everything about him I was just so taken by him. I actually felt so strongly that I excused myself from the concert and went home early!
Since then I've not really been able to stop thinking about him and I feel awful about that. Its making me worry that there is a reason that I am having that response to another man like maybe I am somehow unhappy in my relationship. The only thing I can think is that this man was very thoughtful, articulate and open intellectually as well as sharing my interest in the arts. I have a masters in fine art and my husband has never really been that interested or supportive of my creative interests. This other man is a craftsman and hasn't been to university but he reads a lot, and clearly thinks deeply about music, art, his own experiance which I find very attractive. I just felt he was completely on my wave length mentally. I have no idea if he liked me too.
Anyway I won't see him again for a while and I am hoping it will all sort of blow over in my mind but what if I feel it again, is it normal that this happens from time to time? Am I just a bit bored with my happy stable relationship? If its just the thrill and stimulation of a new attraction then its something I should brush off but what if its something more? Sometimes I think about the future with my current partner, our fourties just around the corner and it makes me feel a bit old and restricted is that normal too?
Any advice would be great!