Living with my Mother

[JandNMum]

Made a major "lifestyle" (yukky word) change last year. Now living in one part of the world with my parents while DH lives and works away mon to fri. I am 38, and have one DS (6) and one DD (8mth). DM is in her mid-60's and boy, do we have some clashes. I am fairly houseproud but dear God, my mother is anally so and life is just not worth living if her routine gets disturbed. Drives me mad some times. DF always backs up DM, of course. Is there anyone out there who can empathise with me when I need to let off steam? Thank you.

you are a brave woman

Can't empathise but thought you needed some sympathy as well

i completely sympathise with you i had to live with my mum 4 yrs ago for 6mths when we were moving house (it all went pair shaped awe moved out before completeing on ours etc)
altough i love my mum i can't live with her she interfered and i guess we all have our own routines and ways of doing things no looking back it must have been hard for her aswell having me dh dd 2 dogs and a cat (plus my sister who already lived there with her dog - all in a 3 bed mum stayed at a friends as not enough beds but only left at bedtime!!)
how long are you likely to be living there is there any light at the end of the tunnel?
at least when dh comes home you have babysitters on hand!!my dh found it werid and would only have a shower when no one in at least he went out to work all day dm is retired and i was on maternity leave!!

keep smiling they mean well feel free to contact me to rant it really does make you feel better!!

Thank you Tommy and Madhouse2. This is a permanent arrangement (unless I end up in the local jail for matricide!!!). Nice to know you care - I've left all my friends too and am only just making new ones now through DS school and DD baby clubs. I love my mum but we just don't agree on things - I think there's more to life than cleaning loos and ironing whereas she believes she'll be damned as a slut if she doesn't polish the so-and-so kettle ever day! Anyway, DD is waking up now so I'd better go. Thanks again and I'll be back for another rant soon no doubt!!!

any time