Basically my boyfriend and I arent getting any chance to spend any time alone together at the moment it feels like we are having some sort of sordid affair what with my 4 kids, his 2 kids and our jobs.
I suggested without thinking that we both book time off work one weekend and we go stay in my mums caravan a couple of nights and he said oh that sounds great should deffinately do it then at the same time we both said what about the boys, so basically that was that and conversation over.
He has his boys most weekends sometimes only one night if hes got work the next day as he has to be up very early, which is a bit hard because my kids are with their dads weekends. Hes txt me anyway just now and said he thinks we should go for a weekend away and that his mum has agreed to have the boys. Thing is though as much as i want to go away with him i feel really selfish my ex is always dumping dd on his mum so he can do whatever with his gf and i hate the thought of upsetting his sons dont want them thinking daddy thinks more of his gf than them.
On the other hand if its just a one off then what harm would it do just once, he is a very doting dad like i said has them 1 or 2 nights every week and takes them for tea or to cinema every weds so its not like their neglected.
He also said we wouldnt be able to make it public knowledge if we go because his ex will kick up a fuss if she knows theyve been left with his mum for a full weekend, so i said well what if you just say you cant have them that weekend and he said well no because she'll kick up a bigger fuss.
So really we are stuck but the thought of having a full weekend away just anywhere together with no responsibilities sounds bliss 