DH seems to be dragging his feet, now what?

[dripty]

Married with 3DCs. Told DH a month ago that I had been to see a solicitor and wanted to split. He assumed I would just walk away leaving him with the marital home (in his name only mortgaged) and that would be that.
I informed him that the house would need to be sold, money split, etc.
The last thing I said was for him to get legal advice. Since then, nothing. He has not mentioned moving things on and is acting as though the conversation never took place.
Should I just get a solicitor involved to get the ball rolling as I don't want to continue living in this limbo?

Yes, you should get the ball rolling now.

Yes, get on with seeing a solicitor.

Do you have an income independent of your H?

What? Yes carry on, its his decision as to what his next move is. You can't wait around for him on a divorce that you're instigating. Perhaps he doesn't think you will go through with it?

Be prepared for him to get nasty & don't agree to do a DIY or internet divorce. Stay strong.

Well done OP :)

Yes, carry on with your own solicitor and your plans. You do not need his permission or his co-operation to divorce him and, no matter what he says to you, he is not above the law and will not be able to keep the house to himself.

Yes, definately. My DH just did nothing after I had to utter those awful awful words "i don't love you anymore, our marriage is in real difficulty, we need help". He did NOTHING. Not try to talk with me, no attempts at trying to show some affection......he did love me, still does. He's never gotten over it. He was just powerless to act, was not equipped emotionally to know even what to do or where to start. So he did NOTHING. He was totally helpless and it still makes me sad. The other side is that becuase he did nothing, he also abdicated responsibility, so i think in his head he has rewritten it as me "doing it", me breaking up the family. But i had no choice, this was 3 years ago. it's been hard but i don't regret it.

Totally agree with the doing NOTHING situation.
Since I told him I want to separate he has acted as though everything is normal. As though the whole conversation never took place.
He had the opportunity to put up a fight for me/ us but nothing. Didn't even ask why. I think if he had asked for a separation I would at least have wanted to know why even if I did have no intention of trying to fix things.
So I can't understand why he's burying his head in the sand when he so obviously doesn't care.
So is my next step to get my solicitor to send him a letter with my intent to divorce? Will that require him to hand over financial details, etc?

Yes, get your sol to send a divorce petition, you can divorce him for unreasonable behaviour, he doesn't have to agree to it, it's immaterial.

Then sol can help you sort out the financial aspects. Hopefully at some point he will get a sol of his own and that will probably change his attitude somewhat.

Good luck.