Hey regulars, cheer me up!

[MadBusLady]

This is by a long, long way not the biggest problem on the board, sorry. So today I just asked out a very hot man I've fancied for ages and for various reasons couldn't up to now. And he said no nicely but no.

I sort of knew he would too, but just wanted to get it over with so that I knew for certain and could let go. I did it very well if I say so myself

So please tell me about plenty more fish in the sea, what's for me won't go by me, it wasn't about me people have their own reasons for what they do etc

he's gorgeous

You're brilliant - well done!
And like you say, now there's no uncertainty.
And he's far from perfect - his taste leaves a lot to be desired
I heard he bites his toenails too AND SWALLOWS them

Ooooooh you're a so brave Well done you!

Just how nicely did he say no? You might have planted a seed :o

ok that totally worked. I don't often say this on the internet but LOL.

Seriously though - you do know it probably wasn't about you don't you. And I know I don't know you but I do feel that's true most of the time.
Unless you painted on a hitler moustache before you asked - then the balance tips in favour of 'it was you'

Oh kali don't encourage me! I should really just write it off right now.

Ugh, it's crap when that happens, isn't it? Well at least you will never have that awful kicking-self feeling of "shit, WHY didn't I...?"
It's his loss!

:o
Onward and upward!
It's reverse Groucho Marx - if a man doesn't want you then he's obviously seriously flawed ;)

Kudos to you! I don't think I'd ever be brave enough to ask a man out.
And his loss - he doesn't know what he's missing

Good on you for even asking him. Next time with the next one it won't be as nerve wracking.

Now write him off, onward and upward.

"at least you will never have that awful kicking-self feeling of "shit, WHY didn't I...?"

I have never managed to ask anyone out. And I definitely kickec myself for it.

Well done you! That's an amazingly brave thing to do, definitely have wine :-D

If he can't see how fab you are and how you would be perfect together he is not good enough for you.

I did it by email, so it wasn't that brave yes I think I could do it again though. The world hasn't totally ended though this bottle of wine probably will.

Good for you. Often, we women let the men have all the power by never doing the chasing/asking out, doing the "I can't call after the date, I have to wait for him to call" and it's just horrible. It's a waste of time and adrenaline, so fuck that shit. I really admire you. Now you know. You might be disappointed, with slightly bruised pride, but you haven't driven yourself mad sitting waiting like a lemon. Big up yourself.

Oh you're all great you are

You're fucking great.

Inwards and upwards, OP!

Who's next?

Onwards* [mad]

Inwards . Yeah, I need to meet more men to compose elegant emails to. Need to meet more people full stop actually.