Is it normal to find your partner really irritating?

[Thislife]

I have been seeing someone for nearly a year. I don't really know what has happened or why but I have gradually got to the stage where he is getting on my nerves to the extent that I am relieved when we have a night off from each other and I can slob around the house in peace.

If he calls, I find myself rolling my eyes thinking, what does he want now? He asks so many questions, probably just showing interest, but I find it overbearing. Then he says something which makes it sound like he is checking up on me or telling me the right way of doing something and I am so irritated I am sure it must show in my voice. Why can't he just leave me in peace?

He doesn't live anywhere near me but sometimes knocks the door without warning at completely random times. He was offended when I said I didn't like it.

Does this show that we are not right for each other or is it normal or is it me?

By the way I came out of a long relationship 2 years ago and think maybe I do just need time and space to myself.

If you want a man at any price then put up. If you can be a functioning single woman then put both of you out of your misery.

You can always change your mind. I don't think you'll have bad vibes if you're not that sort of person!

So you have ended it?

I came out of a 7 year relationship and shortly afterwards was with a guy for around a year. I liked him at the start, but by thte end everything he did annoyed the fuck out of me! this was wildly unfair on him; he was a very lovely man with a heart of gold but I found myself internally rolling my eyes and everything.

In the end, I ended it and didn't even miss him. I am not normally such a bitch, but think that I just wasn't ready and needed my own space. I have since met someone who only annoys me a normal amount and the difference in how I feel is huge, I think because I was ready.

What is a normal amount?

I'm having a little break from OH and his sense of humour at the moment.

Did you do it? You shouldn't let him persuade you because you feel sorry for him. Not a good basis for a relationship.
Plus he does sound a bit too intense and he will only get more irritating and 'stalkery'
Happy single life!!!

There is no love for him shining through any of your posts. Let him go and find someone who loves him and likes him for who he is.

Thanks everyone, you are making me think. Yes that's true aurynne. You have to be cruel to be kind in the long run.

I did have the talk. He wanted to stay for the evening but I made him go home. He said he would rather see me occasionally than not at all.

My mother says, don't lose a good man (!) But if the feelings aren't there, you can't magic them unfortunately.

No thslife you can't. Well done. Stay firm and don't let anyone guilt you into back tracking

Well done for being honest OP

He said he would rather see me occasionally than not at all

... and you said ?

I find myself feeling really irritable with my boyfriend for a few days every month, which put down to hormones because as soon as I come on it passes. It couldn't be anything like that could it?

oops! bit late

You're not that into him. Fairer on him to end it. If you were mad about him, you'd love him dropping by.

That's me, YoBitch!

I think the OP's relationship has definitely run its course...