Am I boring in bed?

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I have been married to my dh for 12 years. We get on really well and have a great relationship. We have 2 dc aged 7 and 9 and spend lots of time together as a family. We have sex about 3 times a week and it generally follows exactly the same pattern. Dh generally ends up on top and I orgasm twice before he comes. i worry i am boring but don't really know how to change. I find it hard to orgasm when i am on top. Dh says he is happy the way things are but i sometimes think i am depriving him of more exciting sex.

I used to think there was more to sex than the orgasm. My partner never orgasms with me, only by himself.

I have tried quite a few things. He now tells me not to bother if I touch him as "there is no point".

I feel he goes through the motions for my sake but now I've started to wonder is it me? Do I bore him? It's making me question myself endlessly and as he won't discuss it I feel a bit of a failure in that department.