Arrogent/big headed

[Thaigal]

Just lately my partner has been really winding me up with his arrogent attitude, he really seems to think he is something amazing and i know confidence is good but arrogence is just so unattractive .

He was writing his CV out the other day and went through a few of his old work documents and started snorting "hmm I dont think they realised just what I was capable of.." and then when he was explaining to his friend his work experience he just said "I'm not really qualified but I do know...." and then started babbling about all the stuff he could do trying to use as many big words as possible finishing with "but, as I say I wouldnt say I was more qualified than the adverage Joe" , even his friend was nodding his head in a "yeah ok ok" kinda way when he was rabbiting on.

Its like yesterday during a conversation he said "I wasnt a very good speller at school but look at me now, I have a huge vocabulary and my spelling is spot on"...I dont think he realises how he sounds!

I find him so bloody annoying sometimes, he was questioning our 8 years old's interest in computers and then scoffed "hpfff, I had written my first program by the time I was 7" ... yeah ok, sure you did, bet ya didnt know he'd written his first novel by the age of 10 either eh?! (ok the last bit is me being sarcy but I wouldnt put it past him!).

Apparantly when we met he was just glad to find someone who could 'match' him in conversational abilities. grrrr

Am I getting wound up over nothing or does he come across as a prat?

sounds like a prat to me, sorry! Hope you can get over this and find some positive aspects?

sounds alot like my ex!! And he is an ex for a reason!! always thought he was so above everyone else, used to take the mickey outa me because iw asnt so clever!

meh - I know lots of this kind of person and often it's because they (at some point) took a huge knock to their selfconfidence and still try to score points to build themselves up occasionally.

Counterintuitive as it sounds, appreciating things he does well that he doen't brag about may help - maybe he is an expert bedtime-story-reader or something - so he realises he has nothing to be insecure about and can stop blowing his own trumpet.

Oh, and sarcasm never works, as I know to my cost.

yeah he tries that with me too, for instance during the really hot weather I said something like "oh, its supposed to be nearly 80 degrees tomorow..." and he laughed and said "err...yeah...farenheit!" of course i meant faranheit, i'm not bloody stupid!

and then during an argument he said "you cant seem to make conversation unless you go through the bbc news site in search of topics first"

Then there's the sarcasm eg. me - "ouch, those kievs are red hot!" him - "well duh...they have just been in the oven..."

ok, now he's sounding like a prat.

condescending twerp (sorry ). sounds like he's got an inferiority complex.

Give him a slap, at least he'll have something else to be sarky about, the prat. Sorry.

whats it called?oh yeah,delusions of grandeur.why is it always men who go on about how wonderful they are while women tend to run themselves down?

I know, it's not very attractive. Could be that the world is full of successful men who are like that, and we men are sometimes led to feel that, because everyone else is doing it, you have to "big yourself up" to be taken seriously, especially in a male-dominated workplace. Not trying to defend anybody's arrogance, but I think that's part of it.

Men spend far too much time trying to show how good/clever/tough they are. The few who are secure in ourselves don't feel the need.