Confused about this man

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I have been seeing him for a couple of months and we met on line. In someways it seems to have gotten serious fast but at the same time I don't really know much about his dating past. I know he was married and is divorced and that he was on the online dating site for a while after that but I don't know about girlfriends. I don't know whether it would be kinda weird to ask now after not asking right at the start?

we see each other a couple of times a week as we both work shifts and he has a son. I have met his parents and some of his friends. it seems a bit like it has got comfortable kinda fast. good in some ways but I wonder if he will get bored of me.

I think I am scared to totally fall for someone.

Do you need to know about his 'dating past'? It's more his 'dating present' that would bother me, ie is he still on the site and dating others! Is something bothering you?

You don't say how much you like him - the fact you're fretting about his past or whether it's too comfortable too quickly makes me think you're not really that in to him. Which is fair enough - you can walk away.

It certainly wouldn't be weird to ask him now about girlfriends etc - natural curiosity. Has he asked you about your past?

If you're not happy with any aspect of a relationship.... speed, getting comfortable (taking for granted?), his past etc.... then pipe up. If you'll pardon the observation, you seem more concerned with him getting bored with you than with voicing your opinion or asking some important questions. Being passive and letting him dictate the pace won't earn you either respect or happiness.

Decide what you want. Be in control.

Ask him, its not weird at all. Just ask him in a lighthanded offish way. Is there something that's caused you to worry about his past?

If its going too fast then put the brakes on yourself, this is equally your relationship as well as his & you can also dictate what happens.

It sounds as though there are unresolved issues from previous relationships leaking into this one, if this is the case then talk about them with him. Be honest with him. He can't help unless he knows there's a problem

I really like him alot. That is what is freaking me out.

He knows I haven't dated a whole lot and kinda seems to focuss on the the future. It isn't really that there is an issue but he introduced me to his friends and family and I don't know what he has told them about me or if he has introduced lots of women to them.