Help please. Friend reported her H to ss

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Yesterday morning at 7.30am, I got a call from an old friend. We hadn't spoken for a while. She was on her way down to me she said she had problems. She has 3 kids and hubby whom I know fairly well. She was coming alone.
When she arrived she said she thought her hub was cheating on her as she had found a receipt from a bar with £100 bill.
I checked out the bar for her, it all seemed sound. He had told her he was going out to a work do anyway so I tried to reason with her.
She is obviously angry at him and has been for a while.
She said she was going to stay the night (at this point her husband has no clue where she is and he has the kids (all under 5)
Anyway she was ignoring his calls all day.
Then, she started saying she suspected he was sexually abusing the eldest and she was going to write a letter to ss.
(I have 3 kids myself btw and I grew up with abuse in my family)
My first thought (though I didn't tell her) was, if you think your husband is abusing your kids then why the hell have you run off and left them with him?!) This really got to me and I started doubting her story.
Later that evening she confessed she had fallen for someone else who she was meeting up with that day!
He story just doesn't add up and I noted several discrepancies.
Either she has lost her mind or couldn't give two hoots about her kids or this is a fabricated story to hurt him.
(they also have visa probs and she said this could help or or something)
God knows, but I am seriously doubting our friendship right now.

Anyway, she left our house at 6am. She left her stuff so assumed she was staying again. Didn't hear anything all day.
Then an hour or so ago she texted saying can I keep her stuff, she had called ss and reported him and she needed to go home. (including her computer)

Firstly, am I right in wondering if this us true or not and how long after ss hears about an allegation will they do something.

I've told dh, I just don't want to get involved, in fact he said he doesn't want her staying again. But she has to return some point for her stuff and because she stayed at ours when she made the allegation, could that involve us at all?

Frankly, we've enough of our own probes at the moment. I'd be first to help her if I thought all this sounded true but I am very sceptical.

Ty previous posters. How do I go about it. Can I remain anon?
Would they have opened a case or something?

You don't have to give ss your name. You just tell them all that your "friend" has said.
When you do hand back your "friends" stuff make sure you hand the laptop back to the husband and tell him he should take a look at it if he knows what's good for him!

Oh goodness, yes please contact SS and tell them everything. Do it soon please! Those poor children may have to suffer through examinations for evidence of abuse

Omg, I've really been set up. She swore me to secrecy. I know other people in the church she goes and she said I should not say anything or that she has talked to me. I'm going to be caught in the crossfire.
Is there a general ss line or do I call a local one? I have no idea how they work. Would they gonaround there very soon.
She said she was going to call me this am to 'fill me in'
Do I just ignore if she calls or listen to what is happening now?

But like you say, I need to ask myself if I can stand by and let this thing happen. If she is right though, they would find out?
What an awful situation.

Does she realise she is failing to protect her children by leaving them with someone she thinks is abusing them? If that is the case does she not realise social services will look at taking the children into care and she could end up with them being placed for adoption.

She has deliberately left them alone to be abused!!

Ourmiracle, that is exactly what I thought and is playing on my mind.
I don't think she understands the system very well. (she is African)

If he is abusing them her actions can guarantee they will be taken into care and she will struggle to get them returned

Google the council for the area she lives in and the contact details for SS should be on there.

You can definitely do it anonymously if you want to. If she finds out you did it, just point out to her that she left her children with a man she believed was abusing them, so she could meet up with another man and the welfare of a child should come before the feelings of an adult.

Your friendship may be over, but she's either a danger to her innocent husband or to her abused children.