I'm nearly there - but not quite!

[wildwest]

After a New Years day break up - and a drunken one nighter four weeks later - I'm doing my best to move on from someone who made me fall for him even though I knew not to. He was full on with me from the start and just when I thought 'ok - now I really like you' it was all over. He'd just come out of a long term relationship and turns out I was the rebound I guess.

I find myself missing him intensely at the most random moments - although it's not as bad as it was! I'm finding it hard to even be interested in other guys as they remind me that they aren't him. I'm annoyed I'm not completely over him. He's completely blanked me now after one night of drunken texting 7 weeks ago. Not that I want to be in touch anyway - that wouldn't do me any good at all. Just amazes me that he could switch off from me after being so intense.

That's it really. Funny post?

not at all. Sounds like he is a bit of a player, You sound like you really are nearly there. It's normal to miss someone at random times - that will will go soon too I'd imagine.

Intensity early on in a relationship is not a sign of strong emotions, it's just a modus operandi that certain people engage in to get them what they want in a short space of time.

So it's not an emotional on/ off thing for him, it's just he got what he wanted - ego boost, validation, whatever, and now he's moved on - probably to seek the same elsewhere.

NC is the best way to go, you need to give it a bit more time that's all

Thanks for the replies! I really hope it does go soon. X