The aftermath of divorce/separation

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I read an article in the guardian this morning that really moved me. It focuses in a woman's experience of online dating websites but also discusses the pain of divorce. She describes so well the initial pain and also the feelings that can keep coming back even after a few years.

It's been quite a few years since my exH left but every so often something triggers that feeling of loss, and every few months I still have a dream about him.

The article is here: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/apr/12/how-i-picked-myself-up-after-divorce

Thanks for posting that article. Sums up my experience of divorce and OD really well

That's a very good article - thank you for posting it It sums up many of my feelings very well - the sense of grief and loss after 30+ years together, the terrible shock I felt when my H left me for another woman - I had no idea - and most of all that he could just stand and watch my distress and look at me in a totally detached way - he truly didn't care about me in any way and that is devastating.

I haven't tried online dating- although I would quite like some male companionship (and some sex!!) I'm not sure I could ever have another relationship. I've been working on being me and enjoying my own company and regaining my identity having been part of a couple for so long.

It's hard and its horrible, -it is by far the worst thing that has ever happened to me (and I have had several losses of loved ones and suffered from cancer but this is worse) - but although I don't think I will ever get over it, I do think that things will get better and I will be able to move on. I do feel a bit like damaged goods though