I am very lazy and unfocused

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Just that. I have NCed and wanted to post here as the crowd in relationships seem open to problem solving.

I don't know why but I am getting virtually nothing done and I've been like this for a while. I am not living in the UK do not speak the local language and so don't work outside the home. I like living here. We have three kids ages 13-7. I am absolutely crap at giving myself structure and getting things accomplished at the moment. I am not depressed but I seem to have no focus or motivation. My house is dirty and untidy (and I have a great DH who really does his share). I have good intentions to do lots of things that don't happen. I have lots of friends, locals and expats and my DH is always telling me how much he loves me.

As an example I been awake for 7 hours and I am still in my dressing gown. DH took the kids out shopping. I waste time reading and doing nothing else. How do I sort myself out? This post is guilting me so I will have a bath and wash my hair and try and get some housework done (I did clean a loo today!) and check back.

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No I'm not in the Middle East and I don't have a maid (!) I have volunteered locally but stepped back from that last year when we thought we might be moving to another country. The volunteering I was doing was a commitment with individuals and families for months at a time so I couldn't make the commitment if I thought we might suddenly leave.

Yes, once I get going I get a lot done - it's the getting going part! There is some weird irony that there has been hardly anyone ever in my life who has said "How can I help you achieve this/get going with this?" but I am excellent at doing that for others! I help other people find resources to succeed and connect people together.

I am also not in an ex-pat environment. I have friends who are ex-pats but live in the local community like everyone else. I have close friends who are locals. I tend to make friends wherever I go, so they are the usual mixture.