I honestly don't know if it's me or him - one of us have changed, for the worst.
Three years in, 10m old dd.
When I met him, he was the opposite of all my arse hole exs . We had laughed all the time. He was so laid back and non argumentative, I loved it. He wasn't obsessed with his looks and we were best mates.
I've give up work (I wanted to) to be a SAHM and I do t know if that's another factor why I'm do fucking fed up all the time.
The laid back I now see as lazy, yes he does work 12 hours but does not lift a finger in the home and doesn't really pull his weight with dd unless I ask him. He will play with her but when it's time for bath/nappy /feed/reading it me.
The non argumentative , I now see as unresponsive, a fucking million times we have discussed issues And he makes all the right noises but never sees them through - basically saying enough fir me to STFU
Not being obsessed with his looks has got to another level. He did not brush his teeth for a week, till I pulled him on it. Dosnt flush the chain when he has had a shit - because he 'forgot', can't be arsed shaving, not even for work.
Obviously I don't want to have sex with him . He feels hurt by this.
We argue all the time now about his irresponsible behaviour, his appearance .
He is shit with money, shit with dealing with day to day crap that normal adults deal with and manage.
Dd is ten months in this world and I really want dp and I to work for her. We have really come of the tracks - big time.
He says I bully him.
I don't think he is the bloke I fell in love with any more - or is it me that's changed ? I feel like my heads gonna blow off. Trying to talk to him is like walking through tar.
Feel like im living with an eleven year old :-(
Help!