The one who got away.

[superstarheartbreaker]

Anyone got one go these? He wanted me 10 years ago and I wanted him but I didn't go for it as was recovering from abuse.
Still in my home town , still george ours, still totally moved on( not sure if he has gf though).
I know I will find someone else but every time I see him or his family around town I feel those sad pangs and kick myself for not going for it.

Gorgeous I mean!

I know how you feel. I had just ended an abusive long term relationship when it happened. He was/is someone I know from around town/through friends etc and we just got to talking on a night out. Turns out he'd been interested in me for quite a while but didn't realise how bad things were with my ex. I really fell for him (and him for me I think) but I had just moved away and he was thinking about travelling. It would have never worked but I still think about and talk to him often. I'm now engaged to someone else and very happy it's just one of life's what ifs really.

I recently met my one that got away and we both agree that it wouldn't have worked long term.

We are now though,good friends.

I would like a friendship but we had a tiff about two years ago when I felt I was being led on. I don't think he was but now he is distant.

I guess it's not just me then.

I met up with my one that got away last year after 10 years. We both said that it wouldn't have worked then as we were both too young. Now we've been together a year, expecting a child and house hunting, I guess if something is meant to be then it will happen but sometimes thinking about the what ifs is worse.

The thing is though SuperStar, you had your reasons for not going out with him at the time so it probably wouldn't have worked out anyway because of those reasons.

Just try and imagine him sitting in your frontroom biting his toenails whilst you're eating chilli con carne and think how lucky you are not to have to put up with that every night.

What was the tiff about? Led on in what way?

Sounds like maybe he is far from ideal...

This is pathetic but I just dearie dead him on Facebook as I have seen he is in a relationship and it just makes me so sad. :-(
I know his sister and I went to the family home for a party. I just can't do it as it makes me so sad that we are not together. I still have feelings after all these years. I know that it is irrational but there is still love there .

It's wierd because just being around him makes me feel very emotional and sad. I feel very lonely ATM and maybe this is contributing.

I had a one who got away too. We tried 3/4 times to make a go of it, but it just didn't work.

4 years ago we got back in touch. We've now been married for 3.5 and have a son, despite the circumstances 4 years ago that meant it would never, ever happen. We've overcome a hell of a Iot to be together, and the first couple of years in particular were very trying.

I wouldn't mind so much if we had tried but at the time I didn't take my chance... Really kicking myself now. It's like a life sentence... Not being able to be with someone you really love.

superstar, are you currently in a relationship? Maybe you just need someone else to occupy your thoughts?

No. I am ALWAYS single. And he is ALWAYS in a relationship. :-(

I had one ,
Even no if he turned up I'd still care about him.
I originally messaged his friend on a dating site , but we mutually decided we aren't right for each other.
A year later he introduced .e to his best mate, months of daily texts including support during a pets illness, and me being dumped and loosing job, we met.
There was something about him, I'm normally very shy about kissing to start with but not with him.
We had a great time , went out on days out, always kissing and touching never had full sex but we'll use your imagination.
This went on for two months , I messed up in the end , anyway after about the November he didn't text as much and last time I heard from him was new years eve.
4 months later and I still think of him when I pass the canal were we first kissed.
Deep down I know he'd never of committed and I'd would have had to compete with his mum.
But I still think of him