Have name changed for obvious reasons. My dh and I are desperate to fix the problems in our marriage caused by the disparity in our sex drives. He has the higher sex drive and I know is feeling hurt and rejected and I feel under pressure and guilty for not wanting to have sex as often as he would like.
I know this is a really common problem and searching for advice has lead us to the idea of trying to set aside a night a week where we will definitely have sex. This is supposed to help reassure dh that sex will happen regularly and to reassure me that the pressure is off the rest of the time.
We need to find a way to bring back non sexual intimacy to our relationship as well as sexual intimacy. I know I am distancing myself from him to avoid sending the message that I am interested in sex and I am interpreting his affection towards me as always being sexually motivated. He suggested removing sex from the menu altogether but I think this may make it worse. Does anyone have any experience with this?