Crap day

[Notsoyummymummy1]

Found out yesterday that my fil has cancer and after a difficult evening comforting poor dh my mum has just paid one of her visits and had a right go at me for not being happy enough. I think this may have stemmed from my asking her to stop bringing sugary food for dd each time she visits but I asked her nicely as I know she hates being challenged in any way. She just kept shouting at me in front of dd and got worse when I cried before storming off. I just feel so fed up - why can't she just be supportive for once? I feel so tired and lonely.

I am sorry for your FIL. Your mum has a problem there. I expect you told her about FIL? I guess he upstaged her?

You know she won't stop bringing sweets, don't you? If you happened to mention you think your dd does not suit red (say), she would start buying clothes all in red.

I expect there is history between you and your mum. Don't worry about for now. If she comes again laden with sweets, say thanks and put them in a tin high up and forget bout them!

Just continue to support your Dh and FIL who deserve support and leave her to her funny (not so) ways!

Thanks for replying. Yes maybe there is a bit of jealousy there - she's always gone into sulks over my relationship with dh's family and she seemed really annoyed that I was sad and tired - she was really quite nasty about it. Yes you're right she has a history of this kind of thing - she is kind in a lot of ways but very very overbearing and it's like treading on eggshells all the time.

Yes I suspect she won't change and I will just put the stuff away and bin it but it's a touchy subject as I found out she was feeding dd chocolate behind her back. You're right I need to focus on dh and his family now - I'm tired of stressing over her. I'm just cross that she spoke to me like that in front of dd.

Behind MY back I should say!