My DBF has tinder wwmn do?

[chrissy74]

Was using my DBFs phone last night and noticed a flame logo app next to FaceBook.
opened the "flame" to see what it was and it is tinder, had a look see then googled tinder and yeah I'm sure you all know what tinder is!?

Is this used for anything other than no strings sex? What should I do?

Is DBF your boyfriend? (just checking on the acronym).

How long have you been seeing him?

The Guardian explaining Tinder earlier this year. It's not meant to be a NSA site, but it's definitely about matching.

Any gut feeling about why your BF would be seeking matches?

~I have no idea why he is using this app.
We have been together for a while now and as far as I'm aware we have a active sexlife

I feel hurt and betrayed

DBF yes BoyFriend

Tinder is a dating site but, like so many dating sites, a lot of people use it for hook ups.

It MAY be something he used before he met you (I'm always wary of excuses) - how long have you been together - months or years?

If he's active on it he's probably using it for flirtatious chat and, possibly, meeting up. It seems there are plenty of married/attached men who just chat on dating sites for a bit of a thrill and never meet up. Either way it would be totally unacceptable for me if I were you.

3 years sex life is still very good or at least i think it is

Oh, sorry. He's clearly downloaded the app while in a relationship with you... the question is why.

If you confront him he will probably tell you that he'd heard about it from some mates and went on there for a laugh but you'll always have that niggle.

You have a couple of options from what I can see:

1. ask him outright and prepare to accept his reasons;
2. borrow his phone again, open the app and see if he's using it, which is snooping, but at least you'll know;
3. pretend you never saw it which I know I couldn't do;
4. mention to him that your mates are all talking about Tinder, has he ever heard of it? (the problem with this option is that if he says no, then you have to ask why it's on his phone ...)

I'm really sorry you're faced with this worry.

Do you live together?

Just ask him. He knows you borrowed his phone I presume so tell him what you saw and ask him why he has it downloaded.

It's a dating/sex app and it wasn't invented when he was single. Everyone I know in a relationship (including myself!) is very curious about Tinder, it's possible he's been an arse and let his curiousity get the better of him rather than actively setting out to cheat IYSWIM.

Open it up again and see if there are messages. He might be just looking as lots of people are talking about it but you get in touch you need to send messages. The 'matches' just mean that both parties swiped to the right and 'liked'....but lots of people swipe right and match without sending messages.

Buzzarbird: Yes we live together
Lovingfreedom: I'll open it up again tonight and see if any messages.

Feel a bit sick in the bottom of my stomach, I hope there are no messages

Fingers crossed for you chrissy

Even if there are no messages I think you could still do with telling him what you saw and ask him to explain as you feel bothered by it.