Together 22yrs, married 15, been unhappy for a long time. Used to look at freedom poster and think what man doesn't have some of those traits, after looking on here I have gradually realised that h is ea.
About 6 weeks ago and another threat to leave, this time I didn't stop him, he was back in 2 days refusing to give me space, off again a week or so later, same thing wouldn't stay away. I agreed to try, felt I needed to say I've tried everything but just felt so wrong, was doing it for everyone but me..nothing new there. Well last week he rang and asked how I thought it was going so told him the truth. Since then he's alternated between nasty anger including taking ds 4yrs away from me, dsd's will have nothing to do with me ( grown up and v close), killing himself, has mh issues and has used this for yrs, complete denial, he spoke to dm yesterday and realised it was over-I thought, last night it started again, the pls reconsider followed by nasty anger and threats.
He says he will change, I haven't given him a chance, I should of told him yrs ago! So at least partly my fault, and now we are back to just think about it..my resolve is weakening, do I give him a chance? will I regret not doing so in the future? a divorce is going to be really nasty, there is no way he will put ds first, any advice? Sorry for long post just so lost