Thinking about my ex....

[Ravensworth79]

Hello

I've been separated for nearly four years. I had one relationship which lasted nearly three years, and I finished it because he lived too far away, didn't drive, and spending time with him was taking me away from my children. I loved him, he loved me, and he made me feel incredibly special

I started another relationship last June with someone who lives nearby and is in a similar situation to me. We get on well and I know he sees a future for us. I'm not so sure, he can be a bit rough with me when we make love, we have different views on many things, but he makes me laugh and I know he thinks the world of me.

Recently I have been thinking about my other relationship. He treated me like a princess and I miss being with him - he was my best friend. My children are off to Uni soon and I don't know if I should contact him. I don't know if he is with anyone else, and I'm scared to in case he turns me down, and I'm also feeling very bad about possibly ending my current relationship because I know it will hurt him terribly.

But I can't stop thinking about my ex and wanting to be with him again. I'm worried I'm turning into a 'grass is greener' person and hurting people in the process

Any advice would be great

Thanks.

No harm in sending him a message asking how hes doing. That way you can find out if hes attached. If hes not, then you can decide. You said the distance was a problem....this will still be a problem so think carefully if it could work. Would either of you be willing to move? Also your current partner doesnt sound like your match. Even if your ex is unavailable, you still dont need to stay with your current bf.
I was in a similar situation. However, my ex had moved on and had a girlfriend. I also realised i was better off staying with my current partner. Good luck op.

Thanks for the reply. I contacted my ex and we've arranged to meet over Easter, he's not with anyone else.

You made me realise that, even if we don't get back together, my current partner isn't really the one for me, and it's probably better for me to be alone rather than with the wrong man.

Really appreciate your comments, thanks and best wishes for your future.

Rough during sex in a way you don't like = dump, regardless of ex.

I see that you've already contacted him and I hope that it works out for you

I just wanted to say that I am currently on the end of the "how are you?" and the "thinking about you" texts from my ex. I know he's doing it to test the water with me and I'm finding it really upsetting and unsettling.

Not being funny here but should you not be ending it with your current partner first?

I'm not sure a bloke would be getting replies like this if he was thinking of meeting up with an ex behind his current partners back!