Anyone else had ridiculously bad luck with me or is it just me?!?!

[casey89]

Just having a little moan as I am beginning to lose faith in man kind and if I am honest feel like I am losing faith!!

I am 25, friends say I am pretty, very kind, funny, very generous and I would like to say I treat everyone with respect this is my history with guys;

First guy I dated and lost my v plates too: very keen with me at the start then as soon as I slept with him the morning after he called me a 'fucking slag' and told all out mutal friends I was 'obsessed' with him, following this got called many different horrible names, slag been the main one, ironic as he was my first at the age of 18.

First proper boyfriend: nice at first like they usually are but then put me at the bottom of his priority list, made no effort with me, didn't treat me like a girlfriend oh yeh and CHEATED and slept with another girl when he was me.

Second boyfriend: thought id hit jackpot, treated me like a princess, very generous appeared to be besotted by me, showed me all the love and affection in the world, out of the blue days after buying me engraved jewellery with our names on he dumped me, turns out I was a REBOUND and he wasn't over his ex which was my initial concern, turned against me and was rude to me after making me feel like I had done wrong.

Been on two dates since breakup. First one acted very keen and interested I quote 'will I get to meet your parents' (bit odd but whatever) and arranged to see me again, I was a bit hesitant at first as he seemed a bit too keen but when I brought it up again a few days later he ignored me and never heard from him again! Recent date was a recent post, mr arrogant rude arse acts all interested and extends the date to go to a pub then asks when I'm next free then after completely nothing!!!!!!!

It really has got me down tonight and my heart feels like it's actually sinking after this recent blow!!!! All the past guys have all been completely different personality wise so I dnt know what I am doing wrong!!!! Or whether it's me as a person?!?!

Sulky sulk sulk

Anyone else had as much bad luck as me !?!

Well my daughter has had very similar experiences, don't know what to put it down to. The only thing that occurs to me is that she is beautiful looking (doesn't take after me) and maybe the nice guys are too shy to ask her out.

Err, that sounds pretty par for the course in my experience. They are all wrong 'uns until you meet the right one.

What did you learn about relationships when growing up?. Why have you chosen so poorly?. These men have one thing in common; they're all bad boys. Bad boys are just that; bad.

What is your self esteem and self worth like?. Inadequate men can actually go for outwardly confident but inside shaky in confidence women for their own ends.

Do you at heart want to rescue and or save people from themselves?. Have you really picked the same old types each time?.

I would have a look at the "baggage reclaim" website which is about relationships and read "Women who love too much" written by Robin Norwood.

You have to kiss a lot of frogs and all that.

But from your point of view, you dont have to sleep with them, or be needy.
Having said all that, agree with Attila.
And if you dont find the right one for years, work on your own self worth.

You've been shopping for mere boys. Look for a real man.

Well, considering I married a twat, spent over 10 years with him, ended up divorcing due to dv and still have to put up with him to some extent because of DS, maybe unluckier.

It looks like you should be minding the red flags earlier on, though.